Still processing

So I'm 8 weeks and we just found out we're having twins. Now I have PCOS and was on birth control clearly it wasn't working. It's all a surprise for sure and my husband is through the roof he's wanted kids forever. I've been through a lot in life and wanted time to settle into mine and his life for a bit as I just got out of school last year and started my dream career but I'm an intern and on an intern salary, he does fine with his job but because he just moved with me for my internship year and he's a commission worker it's been slow for him. I used to love the idea of being a mom and having kids but I got married young and divorced young and when I met my now husband I didn't even want to get married again it took 4 years of our relationship for me to warm back to the idea and I finally said yes because it was important to him (he's never been married). I feel like something is wrong with me because I'm not excited but I just can't help think about all things that we need to do and get done and on top of where we are financially. I've always been the feet on the ground out of us two but I know he'll do whatever it takes to take care of these babies. Just why aren't I excited like I see other people.

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Completely normal to have these feelings. Do what’s best for you and your family. If you decide to have these babies you will absolutely adore them. I really wouldn’t worry about financials because realistically, who can afford children anyway (unless you’re stinking rich). Just go with what you feel is best, be open with your husband, have these conversations. Everything will be okay ❤️

@Gabriella I definitely am going to have them because I know I will love them in the end. I don't know if I'll be able to get pregnant in the future when i feel "ready" because of my PCOS and I'm a little older so I feel like this may be my only chance to have kids

Completely normal to have these feelings even after birth wondering if you’ve done the right thing missing your old life wondering should I have waited a few more years to start a family I sometimes feel like this and my son is nearly 2 but if I ask myself would u change anything and wish my son never existed i say never he is my everything yes parenting is exhausting & stressful at times yes but so much more rewarding and it’s normal to have doubts at low points but seeing there smiles watching them learn and feeling there hugs makes everything worthwhile so much so we’re having another! 💕 once you start to see your little ones growing and feeling their kicks your excitement will start to grow I’m sure of it, congratulations! Xx

I just posted about this last week, you are not alone 🤍 sending you a hug S always here if you want to talk

It’s completely normal to feel like this! I found out I was pregnant with this baby the day after my sons 1st birthday, so there was definitely a lot of panic and fear of if I’m ready to have 2 under 2, and if I’m emotionally ready to go through this whole thing again. But then I had a scare and thought I lost the baby, and I was shattered. Thats how I knew that I already love this baby, even if I’m terrified. Everything will fall into place and work out :) Just remember, there is nothing that you haven’t made it through in your life, so your track record is 100%! You’ve got this :)

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