Toddler Indecisiveness

I think it’s just something they go through— consider it a right of passage🤦🏽‍♀️

My almost 2 yr old is this way so I use it's mine to get him to accept what he asked for. My now 4 yr old would try this and if he didn't accept what was asked for I would pretend to either eat it if it was food or drink and anything else I would either say mine for use music to tune out temper tantrums until he was calm and then I would talk with him about why I wouldn't his indecisive game.

Pretending to eat it fail, lead to an even longer tantrum🤦🏾‍♀️music sometimes works depends on the day

He’s learning independence and how to express himself 🙂🙃

Offer the original choice or one other choice (your pick). Let them see both options.. in your hands. Let them physically take the one they choose and then put the other away. Be firm. Compliment their decision making and maybe something about their choice. Make it a positive thing to be in control and proud of a choice. This is what I would do, personally.

@Camiwhat if there is no other option? Today for example my dad brought his work construction in my house and he said he wanted to wear it and when I tried to put it on him he said no and after five tries I set on the floor and walked away after 15 minute meltdown I tried to give it to him and that continued the tantrum until he fell asleep an hour ago mind you it started at 6…

My 5 year old still does this 😆

@Sadia That is a bit tougher. Maybe the child likes having the power to control you but doesn’t really want the item they’re using you to “get” maybe alternate between sometimes helping and sometimes saying mommy is busy but you can try it yourself first. Then see if the interest even persists. If it does then you could help a little more? Maybe do the hat and say can you do the vest yourself? I think maybe they’re learning control outside of autonomy and are maybe overwhelmed with how much power we give them (to manipulate us - right we do anything they want us too 😜) I know it’s so frustrating and seems like they’re testing you but really they’re just testing their brains. Our babies love us and patience is never easy when we’re constantly tested by someone who doesn’t know they’re driving us crazy 🤪