SAHM no friends, no hobbies, no interests!

Omg with that land can you garden ? Make a cool outdoor sand box etc start meeting moms on here :)

What did you like as a child? You could do archery on your land

Sammmeeee! We have 13 acres but only 3 that we really use. Three dogs, chickens, ducks on the pond that we have to keep the dogs off of, toddler, etc. My son takes a nap every day but I just sit and enjoy the quiet during that time (also pregnant again). I get things done around the house and on the property all week, go to thrift stores and grocery, playgrounds and that’s about it. I used to like to paint and play instruments but I’m just so worn out and our house is a fixer upper so there’s always work needing done. My only friends live hours away and have busy lives too and I’m sooo picky with new friends and rarely meet new people 🤦🏼‍♀️ we moved to a rural area with the nearest little town 15 minutes away so it’s slim pickings compared to the city we used to live. I’m in a rut now, even though I do love the slowness and the simple life. I just get bored

Just feels like Im talking to myself

You need to make time for yourself. Whether this means to sacrifice a nap for your sanity or what have you if you really want to meet other people. Make your land friendly so you can host play dates like another mom suggested. She won’t be on two naps forever , then no naps ! It’s just a rough season in your life, but you will endure !

Same! Except yard work I don't have to do that fortunately, but its really hard to find time for myself. I try not to be on my phone too much around my son so it's hard to even keep up with the couple friends I do have left because I don't want to be texting them all day. I've started to find ways to get things done more when he's awake and I have time to myself while he naps and that has been the biggest game changer for me feeling like a person again. If I don't get enough done I just have my husband keep him occupied when he gets home while I do what I need to do for the day

I could have written this myself except I’m stuck in an apartment, I can’t even enjoy a nice yard, and the fact that it also gets zero direct sunlight in ANY of the rooms so it’s a cave most of the time even with the windows fully open 😭 everyone keeps to themselves or are people I just- wouldn’t want to be around on a friends basis. And my husband and I share a car so I’m quite literally stuck at home all day. Not to mention I’m pregnant again and will soon have 2 under 2 😮‍💨 18 month age gap.

Ask your partner to be involved. You need ME time to effectively raise a child. You can’t raise them if you’ve lost yourself

I understand his allergies but if he can’t do it, then maybe hire someone to do those yard tasks? That’s what I’d do especially considering your full time job is raising a child and being a home maker. It isn’t fair for you to have to do all that plus yard work. I’m wondering why you guys have acreage if he is allergic. I don’t know the full situation BUT you’re a team and if he can’t do it and you need more time.. he needs to hire someone to mow the lawn to give you the same free time he gets after work. You’re always working as a home maker , it’s only fair. If it’s not in the finances, I suggest finding a way to create more of a balance. He may not be able to do the lawn work BUT maybe he can take on something else to level it out.

@Emily I did do some gardening last summer while pregnant, but we have had so much rain this year in washington that it just hasn't been in the cards yet. We talked about adding a shooting range to the property, but the cost adds up.

@Kate Congratulations on baby number two. We have talked about a second, but I'm just not quite ready. I have so much mom guilt not playing with her when she's awake. Like cleaning instead of doing what she wants to. I know it sounds ridiculous. We are 15 min from any town too.l so I can understand that. We do have neighbors, but most everyone owns land.

@Ashley My husband is very involved and encourages me to take a class for an hour somewhere or get out to do something. I am the one who struggles with it. I just am unsure what to even do with the time except maybe shop for groceries or get things done that I know need done. Why waste free time on something for me when I have a list of crap to complete. He has his lists too

@Tessa We have a tractor to mow the lawns, so it doesn't take a crazy amount of time. Also, there are many other things that have to be done on the property that he does. Roof cleaning, gutters, pressure washing the house, and cement. Rake leaves, remove fallen trees, and burn brush. The acreage is his families. It's where he grew up. He also helps inside the house if needed. He is a great husband. We just both have tons to do with acreage and a large house. Maybe I'll try a garden with my daughter. A very small one....

Y'all having acres (plural and singular) n being down is definitely changing my perspective on life 😳

This is exactly how I feel!

I’m in an apartment. No yard. I take my son to the playground every day. We go to the local library for socialization and play too (for both him and myself) I read when he naps. The only thing I ever liked to do was read. I used to exercise but that’s tough now with a toddler. I tried including him in some of the exercises but he ends up just tackling me 😂 I wish I had property some days. I miss having a yard

Often times between 3 kids my only “me time” I get is me staying up after the kids go to sleep to get some late at night or me going to the grocery store on my own. I actually got upset when my husband suggested why don’t we make grocery shopping family time. I straight up told no it’s my only me time, time away from the kids. Just let me atleast have that.

I didn’t mean to offend anyone I was just saying find something else you do that he could take on so you can have more time to yourself to even out your time. It’s only fair. I wasn’t trying to say he isn’t a good husband, just throwing it out there that you can swap another task so you can have some more time to rejuvenate your soul.