TW// Family Violence

😢 been through the violence before while pregnant and holding baby ! I’m so glad u made it out alive I’m so sorry this happened to you guys ! Bad Dudes are disgusting I absolutely hate abusers😔Please be strong 💪🏼 and keep your head up ! Praying 🙏🏼 for you and your baby

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. You and ur son did not deserve any of this. I hope you recovery from these inflicted injuries and are stronger than ever. Please keep urself and ur son safe 🙏 that kind of evil doesn't deserve the love that child can give.

That man is a monster don’t lift that protection order for anything. You don’t owe him nothing nor his family & you are not a burden. Keep us updated on your son & yourself. Is his skull fracture expected to fully heal & his brain okay? This is so traumatic for you to go through. Sending love 💗

@Marie they said that he’s okay and they didn’t see any bleeding behind his eyes or anything. He’s babbling now, which he wasn’t doing at first. He smiles and laughs more now too. We have to get a MRI in a few weeks to make sure there isn’t any swelling or issues with his brain down the line

@Monae it’s so hard to stay strong. I feel so very useless and I’m going to have these scars for the rest of my life. I don’t even know where to begin with processing everything. I still feel like I’m in shock.

I am so very sorry you and your innocent baby had to go through such violence. I am very proud of you for leaving, please stay strong and take care of yourself. Never look back. I hope he is in jail for this

@Denise he was arrested and then his family bonded him out the same day. He spent a few hours there, but it’s so frustrating because his mom messaged me to see how the baby and I were doing. I have a protection order against him that lasts 60 days, but I plan on getting one that is indefinite. He doesn’t get to know his son or have any type of relationship.

@C thank you, and I think the hardest thing about all of this is the fact that life doesn’t feel.. enjoyable anymore. I’m struggling with so much and it hurts. I physically can’t do anything, I am probably mentally screwed up, and now, I am in so much physical pain that I can’t even return to work.

@Nakia I'm sorry, I've been through DV and initially I think there's a lot of shock, it's devastating- you will find life enjoyable but you need to heal physically and mentally and you do that at ur own pace ❤️ physical things will get better and the pain will stop as u heal, just keep focusing on that baby and remember ur lucky to have family to help u in this hard time. Mentally, ur healing depends on you, maybe consider counseling, maybe focus on some self care when ur feeling a little better the most important thing for u to remember is this was not your fault, and he's probably mentally unwell, not that mental unwellness excuses anything bc it doesn't - but things will get better if you want to talk u have a

Group of people here who can relate and provide support. I'm not sure what u do for work but is remote a temporary option? If not u need to take the time for urself. No job is worth more stress especially with what ur dealing with

I been in your shoes !!!!!! Please I beg you don’t give him another chance I did and I almost died two years ago please it only gets worse

@C @Amber My son has been my sole focus since I found out I was pregnant with him. Everything I do and have done was and is for him. I love him so much. It’s just so hard because I can’t get around like I used to. I can’t go to the bathroom on my own, I can’t carry my sweet boy around, breastfeeding and pumping are different, and I don’t feel like me anymore. To make it worse, he was on Facebook posting about how he only wanted to get back to his dog. He had no remorse or empathy for what he did, and he didn’t care about his son or me. I have absolutely zero intentions of getting back with him. In fact, I was planning on leaving him because of previous instances of manipulation and controlling behavior that made me fear for our safety.

@C @Amber Our protective restraining order lasts 60 days, but I plan on extending it to indefinitely because I don’t want my son to have any contact with him, and vice versa. He lost all rights to be a father, and now his family gets to miss out on getting to know my son. His mom kept texting wanting to know about my baby’s condition while I was in the hospital, but I didn’t tell her anything because they don’t deserve to know. He isn’t with my time, my tears, or my sympathy. When I was in the hospital learning to walk after my hip surgery, my son was my sole motivation. I had to get up and learn to do this so I could get back to him.

I don't know what it's like to survive DV, but I know how to protect myself. Two things: 1. Do you have a gun and know how to shoot? Restraining orders don't work and it takes cops on average 10 mins to get on site. Don't let him kill you. 2. Did you file for full custody? If not, call the courts tomorrow and ask for disabled help to file. Tell them about the active case and that you fear for your and your child's life since he hurt both of you.

@Shay I don’t have a gun, but I want to get one. I live with my grandma and sister now, and we have iron bars on the doors so he can’t get inside even if he tried. He has visited the house before, but I want to protect them as well. The courts won’t give him any type of custody because CPS already filed a case against him, so if I were to get back with him (which I have no plans to do so) they will take my son away. We have a court date set, and I plan on showing them all of the evidence (screenshots and voice recordings) that show why he should be back in jail, unable to be bonded out. The charge for endangering an infant is still active so they could still arrest him, his bond would be set higher than what he was bonded out on already, and if he comes anywhere near us or the apartment, they can arrest him automatically.

@Nakia okay, all of that is fine and dandy, but all he has to do is catch you outside on your way to the doctor or something. Like I said, it can take 10 mins on average for the cops to show up. He can do whatever he wants to you and whoever is with you in that time-frame. Get trained and get armed of you're legally able to.

Living in Texas, this shouldn't take too long. If you need ideas about how to go about this, I can do some research.

@Shay I had to have hip surgery because I dislocated my hip and broke my hip socket in the attack. I’m now on crutches and can barely walk on them at the moment. I don’t think I would be able to any type of training for at least 12 weeks.

@Nakia I know things are hard now but they will get better, we only get stronger. His family has no right to recieve updates especially bailing him out for what he did, they should have let him sit in jail. I'm glad u have a good mindset and don't want to be with him bc sometimes our abusers are hard to get away from I always blamed myself and thought he'll change it'll get better I caused it and I was wrong. As others said a restraining order is great but it does t put u In a bubble. Please do whatever u need to stay safe even if that is being armed. Ur safety and ur baby is top priority. I can tell ur an amazing mom, ur boy is so lucky to have you as his protector 💖

@Nakia yes keep on track with that plan you got this please I went back nd berly survived my unborn baby didn’t he’s currently in prison for what he did to me all cuz I caught him cheating nd I was gunna leave him but that was two years ago I’m in a better place and in therapy nd I have a amazing partner that is God sent …. Life gets better just keep on keeping on you got this