Monitoring toddler sleep while having a baby

Hello mummas,

I have no clue what to do about this maybe someone has an idea? What did you guys do?

I watch my toddler during the night on camera as she sometimes wakes up and calls out for me and I have to comfort her (or she puts herself back to sleep then I can watch and know I don’t need to go), I monitor the temperature as well etc.

But what the heck do I do when I have my new baby (coming soon) in my room?! won’t my toddler shouting mummyyyyy or crying through the monitor in the middle of the night wake her up? I imagine it would as it wakes me. So how does one solve this problem?

Pls help! I keep thinking about this on a daily 😅 and I’m too exhausted for this to keep me up one more night.

Thanks

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I personally have no experience with this as mine is a good sleeper for the most part right now we will see when we add baby number 2. But here is some advice I was given and intend to follow, for new baby focus on a loud and bright sleep environment during the day (don’t put to bed in a dark quiet room for naps) keep baby in a bassinet down in the family room or play room get them used to sleeping through life and they will learn to tune things out (did this with my first and I think it’s why she can tune out her dad snoring and I can’t). Have a white noise machine for both baby and toddler that way you can mask some of the noises they make at night so they are less likely to wake each other up. You may not need to use both but I’d have something on hand for each just in case. Just make sure the volume isn’t too high or too close to the kids heads to avoid impact on their hearing.

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Really good advise thank you! My first sleeps with a sound machine anyways so I think that’s the way I’ll go for the night w new baby. And maybe it will help lengthen night sleep stretches as well to have her in a more relaxed quiet environment at night only. Brilliant. I also plan to babywear a lot during the day so she’ll have the same sound etc situation. The snoring thing is crazy. Actually I was afraid baby will wake to husband snoring cuz I wake up to it all the time too hahHha so it’s possible! Did yours used to wake to start with?

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