Sleep training: Feed-to-sleep and cosleeping

First, just wanna say we've always followed safe bedsharing guidelines such as having a firm mattress and no extra pillows or blankets. I always have my baby's safety in mind. As a new mom, I didn't know that much about baby sleep, sleep training, etc. We have fed-to-sleep since she was a newborn and she sleeps in our bed. She doesn't know how to put herself to sleep and I know it's my fault. I asked her doctor for advice and she suggested CIO. We tried ferber once and called that quits after about 20 minutes because she was sweaty and hyperventilating. I know CIO was her doctors suggestion but I don't think I can do it. Anyone else in a similar situation (or have been)? How did you handle it? 😥

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Join a bedshare/cosleeping Facebook group-- most other groups will be super judgy if you cosleep at all

Hey! There is nothing wrong with co-sleeping! Babies will eventually learn to sleep better when they have deeper attachments with their caregivers and self regulation is something that comes with age, life experience and being regulated with! Youre doing amazing- don’t do something that doesn’t feel natural to you ❤️

We have been co-sleeping since 4 months and also feed to sleep. I always put her down in her crib, but once she’s been up once or twice, I usually end up sleeping with her in her room (we setup an extra mattress). I couldn’t do CIO either. We are just taking it as it comes. If she sleeps looks stretches in her crib- great! (We have yet to sleep through the night). But if she needs me to sleep with her for now, that is what feels right for us. I keep telling myself this is not forever and this will go by faster than I know! Trust your gut and your heart. You’re doing great!! ❤️

Do not do CIO she will grow out of it on her own. Can you transfer after she’s asleep in your bed? They are not little forever and will not be in your bed forever!!! You are doing great

I didnt cosleep but they occasionally ended up in bed with us. But they slept in our room past the first year. I nursed to sleep then held to sleep beyond that. My son who is almost 3 took a bottle so we just transition to that then slowly decreased the amount of milk for the mid night fed and slowly watered down his drink till it was just water. And we held him to sleep for until he starred telling us he was ready yo get in bed. Now he goes to bed to with a water bottle and he just gets in bed after stories and snuggles for a few minutes and goes to sleep. If he wakes up in the middle of the night we go to him till he goes to sleep and he always sleeps in his bed. We just let it evolve and follow his own cues. My girl just 1 still sleeps in our room nurses to sleep and back to sleep every time she wakes. We have coslept with her even less because she slept on her stomach and that worried me. I wad starting to look into sleep options for her and one of the suggestions was the no cry sleep solution book

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