If someone expects to get in the door they plan ahead and ask me. I was raised to respect other people's homes so I require respect for mine
To completely stop coming over instead of just compromising and calling beforehand is silly. It could be so simple.
I’m with you on this. They should give you the heads up before coming - family or not, you have your own home and life together with your husband and children now. His family should respect that
My husband feels like I am being unreasonable! He says they have always come and go as they pleased from each others homes. And that they are not as close because of me. I am not trying to stand in the way of anything. If he want to spend time with them he goes over there. I have never stood in the way of that. His sister doesn’t even speak to me when she would come over. I am so angry. He wants me to extend an olive branch but I don’t feel like I have done anything wrong! And I feel like I am starting to resent him because he constantly wants me to be the bigger person.
Oh man, I could not cope with that. I love my in-laws but I need my SPACE. It’s not unreasonable to ask people to call before they come over and most people wouldn’t dream of staying over at someone else’s house without an invite. It’s insane to me that his family think this is normal but it’s also a shame that they now see you as ‘the problem’. Trust me, you are the normal one.
Oh hell no I don’t open the door if you don’t say you’re on the way. Also my front door mat says “Look at you showing up unannounced and shit”
Girl it’s Called boundaries and that’s what you want. It’s not a lot to ask for at all. I completely understand. I need my space too lol.