Any advice for failing
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There’s nothing I can say that will change how you feel because I’ve been exactly where you are for 3.5 years with no pregnancy yet. What you feel is valid and this is a very tough journey. Go through the emotions but don’t give up hope. Failed cycle after failed cycle, pregnancy announcements, family always asking when you will have kids can take a huge toll on you mentally. I’m lucky to have all the ladies on this app, even if it isn’t me posting reading others and seeing the support helps me to get through
I don’t think there is, like, a trick to stop feeling this way. I always say you can’t logic yourself out of a mindset you didn’t logic your way into. The truth of the matter is that the IVF process is brutal. It’s a punishing ordeal for both your mind and body. That feeling of failure is an inevitable consequence of pumping your body full of hormones in order to spin the wheel of an inexact science. I don’t think it helps that the wellness industry is so heavily geared towards telling women they can control their fertility through supplements, diet, acupuncture, or whatever unproven fad happens to be fashionable at any given moment. In fact, we have very little control over the outcome. Most of it comes down to age, genes, finances, underlying health conditions and sheer, dumb fucking luck. I can’t help you shake off that feeling of failure. All I can say is that every person’s journey to create a family is different. Yours is just a little longer, a little steeper. ❤️
Girl, you will always vaguely feel this way. I'm on the other side with one beautiful little girl and I would love a sibling for her. Two failed attempts later and everything comes right back. It gets a little easier to cope with but it's so frustrating.
Therapy will really help you and a lot of self development work.