Help i’m TIRED
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i 100% feel you!! it seems pretty normal to have these thoughts! i hated it when he would wake up and be like ‘im so tired’ no consideration sometimes! but i genuinely just think they’re clueless as they can’t help out in the ways we’d like! my partner now does the bedtime routine so he gets to spend a bit of time with our little one after work! hell change her, get her dressed for bed and then give her a bottle of pumped milk! that way if i need to i can get a bit of sleep in before he comes to bed or i can crack on with bits i need to do! so far its working well!
@Lauren he usually does bedtime routine but lately hes always napping so i end up doing it instead …..
It’s relieving to know im not alone
I completely relate! It’s hard to be the sole source of food. Our son takes like an hour to nurse so I pump and give bottles for half of his feeds just so I’m not stuck nursing the entire day and that helps a lot! I’m able to feed him more quickly, and when it’s dad’s turn to take him he can feed him for me. I’ve been trying to ask for help with household things more often too. Like yes I CAN do the dishes but if he does them then I can chill for a few minutes instead of rushing to do them. Breastfeeding is HARD and you’re doing an amazing job!!! His dad is starting work again today (from home and not super busy like you) and I already resent him for having so much time to not be responsible for the baby. I love my son so much but it’s hard to do nothing but care for him
No because we’re literally in the same situation. Complain girl. Express it to him. When he comes home from work ask for a nap. Say there’s bottles in the fridge whatever you have to do bc you and baby are the stars of this shit show and he is your best shot at support. My life motto is I’m going to complain but I’ll still do what I’m complaining about. Let! Him! Know! I believe in you
I feel you. I often sit in my chair feeding and stare at my husband sleeping and feel envy because his nipples are useless. My husband also works from home and I feel in the way a lot of the time. Our son is cluster feeding and cat napping constantly at the moment so I feel like all I do is feed, change nappies and get nap trapped. It’s hard to do much more. My husband does a shift 10-midnight/1am while I sleep but since going back to work he’s been struggling to stay awake and he tends to sit in the sofa with the baby which is not very safe. I’m buying a pump in the hope that I can create a little store so he could do a feed so I can get more than 2/3 hours sleep in one hit at some point. Even if it’s during the day on a weekend. I totally understand where you’re coming from. I would try to explain to him how you’re feeling and exactly what you need from him.