Holidays

Hi all, wondering if I can get some advice. My daughter’s dad, who I co parent with, wants to take her to Spain. I am completely against this idea for multiple reason, he sees her once every two weeks at the moment, usually my LO ends up being dumped at his mums house anyway and I have to collect her from there. He’s never looked after her for more than 2 days, he’s bought her back early on multiple occasions for silly reasons (she had a belly ache, she won’t stop crying, she just wants her mum etc etc. she’s only one btw) He never replies to me about how she is when he has her, I have to text multiple times to get a response and the response is always ‘all good’ every single time. When we were together he was emotionally abusive, cheated on me with multiple people while I was pregnant, has huge narcissistic tendencies so I obviously don’t trust him atall. To make it worse he wants to take her with one of the girls he cheated on me with. Is there anything I can do about this? I don’t trust that she is going to be kept safe and properly looked after.

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Personally absolutely not. My bd wouldn’t be taking my baby out of state let alone out of country until he’s old enough to text me and let me know if he’s okay.

This isn’t co-parenting. Co-parenting is 50/50 work on both parts. You have a part time baby father who seems to have poor communication and parenting skills. I would say no to the trip to Spain. Go with your instinct

Absolutely not !! Idc if yall was on terms ! If im not going with my baby out the country then hell no

I agree with everything the other ladies have said, and with him not replying to messages I wouldn’t let him go aboard with her, you would just be worried sick , but at the end of the day your in the position to make that decision

I wouldn’t. My ex is trying to do this with my son so I purposely didn’t put him on the birth certificate. His family is from the uk and wanted to take my son when he turns 6 months and I told him absolutely not even his mom defended me about this. He was planning to not even come back to the states. He was packing and moving all of his things back to the uk when I was in labor with my son and his mom was the one that told me. I told him my son can get his passport when he was 12 and that would be if he truly wanted a passport, but Until then absolutely not. He was even going to forge my signature on the passport (hence why I also didn’t put him on the birth certificate). I’m sure he isn’t going to kidnap he and move to a new country but I still wouldn’t trust him especially with how he acts. That isn’t a safe person to leave your kid with more than a few days anyways and what is he going to do if your baby is constantly crying on the trip, fedex your baby back?