Husband giving female colleague a lift home

One time thing, no big deal. More than that, super weird.

Thats super weird. He needs to come home right away and help his wife with their newborn baby! It’s unacceptable

It seems like he brushes off your uncomfortable comment. Reiterate that it makes you uncomfortable and politely ask him to come home instead to assist you. If he persists to carry on then he’s just being plain rude and disrespectful. Your feelings are valid, but hopefully it isn’t that deep. X

Yeah that’s really weird. If you’re old enough to work you’re old enough to make your way home. There is no need to give ANYONE a lift.

You should express your feelings, don't keep them for you, and ask for more help from him. Tell him you need that he comes quickly at home to help you with the kid. He should be comprehensive. On the other hand, if he wants you to meet the work colleague, I will meet her, you don't have interest but it won't hurt and they will see each other at work so it's better to know how the vibe is with her

I’m not sure honestly, my situation is opposite, my boyfriend was taking Lyfts home everyday because neither of us has a car right now, and it got so expensive and his female coworker drives home another coworker home so he started getting rides home from her, at first I was very uncomfortable with it but what it came down to us trust, I made sure to tell him I trusted him but I still felt insecure and nervous about it because I do have trust issues, and I think he could tell because he made sure to introduce us and she’s honestly really nice sometimes she comes inside to use the bathroom and we just end up talking for an hour after before she leaves, I still sometimes get worried but not that anything would happen between them just that it could, but my boyfriend always proved to me that I can trust him, and this girl has been nothing but sweet to me, and I don’t think it’s the fake kindness that most girls do when they’re trying to get close to your partner

Definitely talk to him about it and tell him how you feel, If it’s really something you can’t get past tell him and he should stop driving them, because your feelings do matter, I know your situation is different from mine and everyone’s feelings are different, you have to follow how you feel and if he doesn’t like it or doesn’t consider your feelings then he’s not thinking about you at all in this situation

You’re absolutely entitled to feel however you feel about it but I don’t think it’s weird behaviour at all. Unless he’s given you reason to not trust him in the past. I’d only be annoyed if he was going miles out of his way and I just needed him home to help with baby. I also wouldn’t be bothered about meeting her

It’s a strange one . He should be wanting to get home straight away to you and the baby. However he might just be a good guy and enjoying her company in a non sexual way . I’ve had friendly colleagues in the past which were male

My oh has given people lifts to and from work before although he tends to moan about it. I don’t overly care as he doesn’t seem to come home any later. I’ve also given people lifts home before plus at my last work you could only use their carpark 4 days a week so had to carshare.

If this was me, I'd ask myself the question 'would I feel the same way if it was a male colleague?' if the answer to that was no, then I'm more bothered about the fact this is a female which could show some trust issues I have, so I would speak to him about it and work on that and ask why I have trust issues. Trust is the biggest thing in a relationship, if there is no trust then it'll never work.. harsh, but true. If you would still care like this if the colleague was a male, then clearly you do trust your husband and you just want him home sooner (if he's going out of his way to drop them off etc) so just tell him this and say you need him home sooner for support etc x

Does she live literally on the way home, and he's leaving at the time he normally would, I would say no drama. But if not, I'd be annoyed

If it’s on his way home then it’s no big deal in my opinion. If he’s going out of his way to drop her off then yeah, bit different. I regularly drop my colleagues home but they live on route, and I’d be fine if it’s was my partner offering lifts. That’s not to say though that your feelings aren’t valid, and if you’re not comfortable with it then he should support this.

Definitely weird unless she looks like a bull dike I wouldn’t want my man taking any woman home because why get a job and need someone else husband to get you from there. That’s a no for me and if your not comfortable he should just stop doing it!

I think it depends… when my child’s father goes to work he lift shares with another guy. It’s an hours drive and take in turns each week. So it splits the cost basically. If it’s a situation like that… maybe she’s giving him petrol money for the lifts back. And if she isn’t.. why? Obviously you’re allowed to feel that way, i wouldn’t personally like it. But it may be innocent