Feeling like an awful mumma :(

My LO had an awful night yesterday, screaming and crying and refusing to go to sleep, I really struggled at one point and I put her down on her bed while she was so upset as I just needed to cry as well, looking back I feel fucking awful and such an awful mum for not being able to control my emotions and give her the support and cuddles she needed. It was only 5 minutes I think but she was so upset and i absolutely hate myself for it, I know it may seem like not a big deal but I suffer with anxiety and I can't stop obsessing over the fact I just put her down when she needed me most 😪 im worried she thinks I love her less or I don't care, but I love her more than the whole wide world and I've never had to put her down onto her bed to cry before, but she was crying so much my emotions just poured out of me. We were both so exhausted, but she needed me more than ever. We did snuggle to sleep after I got rid of my tears after 5 minutes of getting it all out of my system, me and my daughter have such a connected, loving relationship I'd never want anything to change that
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It won’t change that! I think we’ve all been there in that exact same moment ❤️ being a mum is so hard, take it easy on yourself! You’re doing the best you can and that’s all baby wants ❤️

We have all been there! Your doing amazing 💜

If anything putting her down was the best thing to do! Ive done the same and had the leave the room to gather myself when my little boy has been upset! Your doing your best🤍

This is actually an example of great parenting, good for you for having the self awareness to take a minute and settle yourself before trying to settle the baby. No need to feel bad, baby will be okay. It doesn’t even occur to her that you might love her less, in the moment she just knows that she’s upset and once you come back she just knows that she’s happy you’re back.

Thankyou so much for all of your wonderful comments, every comment has made me feel so so much better about what happened and I can't thank you all enough for taking your time to read and comment on my post. You are all amazing mummas, thankyou so much ❤️❤️ xxxxxxxxxxx

Lost count of how many times I’ve cried because my lg has cried but it doesn’t make us any less of a good parent. It’s a big thing and us as well as baby have to learn as we go along. Being a mum is a tough job but boy are they worth it! You’re doing an amazing job! Please don’t beat yourself you won’t have been the first to of done this and definitely won’t be the last! You got this 🩷🩷

You’re doing amazingly! Please don’t beat yourself up, your little girl knows how loved she is xx

This is actually such a good thing to do. If You don’t take the time to look after yourself then you could end up vetting more frustrated and not looking after baby right. Well done!

Health visitors actually advise that you do this if you become overwhelmed by them crying. Much better this than a different angry response in the moment. Its totally natural for you to feel guilt but you shouldnt. look how you were able to collect yourself and have a nice snuggle afterwards, sounds like you have a beautiful connection indeed xxx

Thank you all so much, some of these comments brought tears to my eyes. I really needed to hear these beautiful comments, thankyou 💖 ❤️ 🙏 💕 xxxxxxx

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