Help Sleep Training!!!

My boy is 5 months and now that his sleep cycles have changed he’s up every 2 hours. I need help. Also day time naps are the worst! He will nap against me, with a soother or feed to sleep but other than that he doesn’t nap. I’m trying sleep training but the minute he’s in his bassinet he cries. It’s not like he’s calm for a minute or two and then cries it’s full on hysterical once placed in his bassinet. I can’t do co sleep so please don’t suggest that.

Note: At night he goes into the bassinet without crying but wakes every two hours. It’s naps that he thinks his bassinet is hell on earth.

Right now trying the 2 minutes of cry, soothe then 3 and repeat to 5 minutes

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Check out Respectful Sleep Training/Learning on Facebook, it was a huge help and helped me Sleep train my daughter at 4months

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If you aren't comfortable with contact napping then you probably just have to keep up with the method you've started. At night 5/6mons is an age where they're doing a sleep transition but also a growth period, like when they used to cluster feed, so might be waking due to genuine need for feeding. Their hearing also gets more sensitive at that age, so I wonder if a sound machine might help if you aren't already using one. Hang in there Mumma, you're doing great, and this stage WILL pass.

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My dr told me if you answer when they cry they will always cry. He said there's nothing to prove it is harmful scientifically but is a choice parents must make.
He said if you go in at any point you train your child that when he reaches that level you will come so he will always cry.

I tried being there with body contact at all times and ignoring the crying. It worked great for my son.

I just stood beside the crib rubbing his back or hugging him but leaving him in the crib. I'd sing or just say mommy is here you are ok. After 2 days he just slept.

Good luck. You are doing well amazing.

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Do you have a swing or a bounce chair that he can nap in? Or bring your stroller inside the house so he can nap in it?

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Hey Melissa, Anna here from Little winks sleep👋🏻 I’m a certified gentle coach. Feel free to send me a DM, I’d love to help with your LOs sleep💞

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hmmm not sure why your dr said that, new research shows the cry it out approach does have a negative impact. When a baby’s cry becomes hysterical they are in survival mode (think fight/flight) and they can’t calm themselves. Humans can’t use their prefrontal cortex when in survival mode, (think toddler and tantrum or adult in shock) so the cry it out essentially just has babies cry until so physically drained they pass out but that’s been shown to have negative impact on the child’s secure attachment. Babies brains are too under developed to manipulate, they calm when held because they rely on co regulation once it’s gotten that far.

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he hates the containers. Doesn’t mind the stroller when in motion but he’s wide awake observing the world.

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I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

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