I totally understand this. I’ve never once shouted at my little girl. I’ve occasionally used a firm voice, but mostly I use humour and gentle boundaries to deflect and guide, and it’s working so far. I’m sure she’ll test my patience much more in the future 🤣 I experienced a lot of aggressive and shouting behaviour when I grew up and it definitely had an effect. So I 100% get wanting to break the cycle. It sounds like your mum was being reactive to the event but I would be triggered by shouting at my kid too. Hope you can chat about it and come to an understanding 🤞🏼
@Ruth so good to hear someone who understands!! When my sons having a meltdown I tend to use different techniques that don’t involve shouting as, same I grew up with a lot of it which made me fearful of people growing up, and as an adult I’m triggered by it and it makes me highly sensitive. Definitely my mum knows I don’t like her shouting at my LO, I think the disciplining should be left to mum/dad if either are present but that’s just my opinion x
Yeah definitely, it’s really context dependent. I grew up with a lot of toxic anger. Not being judgey of shouting in general and I’m sure I’ll end up yelling at some point 😫 but like you say, it’s good to choose other ways where possible x
@Ru don’t get me wrong, I do lose my shit from time to time it’s impossible not to 😭 I don’t think my mum meant any harm by it, she was probably just trying to help me cos I felt overwhelmed but shouting is not the way and she knows I don’t use that as a discipline technique so it really pissed me off. But typical me I’m now overthinking it