My own mom

I just posted last night and I’m already back for another 🤦🏻‍♀️ we held a dinner at our house with my husbands family and my mom and her husband, this is their first time meeting. My mom was talking to one of his sisters and starts on a rant saying “if men could get away with it all men would cheat on their wives” and I made a face and she said “oh Jill doesn’t want to hear this” and laughs as my husband is standing behind me holding our son. And I said no I don’t want to hear jokes about it when my sister is going through a divorce because her husband kept cheating on her and she said “I’m not joking it’s true chuck(her husband) said even he would if he could get away with it.” And I bit my tongue( I could’ve said “maybe I won’t take advice on men from a woman who has been married 6 times), finished the food, and went into my bathroom and calmed myself. Came out and decided to not talk to her the rest of the night so my mood wouldn’t be soured anymore by her comments. She then started sulking on the couch ignoring his family the rest of the night and when I texted my sister about our mothers comments she sent a screenshot of a text my mother sent her(it will be attached) and when I stepped outside with my SIL to talk, about 10-15 minutes later outside my mom and her husband come walking down the stairs completely ignore me and look at SIL and say “it was nice meeting you” and walked away without a glance towards me. I have 5 more days of her 🙃 yall give me strength 😂😂😂

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Your mother is so messy 😳 how inappropriate and just plain embarrassing for her to be acting like that at her big age

Trying to stir trouble in every possible way

Also ick at her “smile beautiful” comment to your sister…. Like does she ever give it a rest 🥵
Unless I’m misreading that and she’s saying she’s smiling beautifully

Oh deaaaar.
Why 5 more days? You had her over for a week? Is she living long distance from you?
I mean you could just laugh it off and say mom you're such a cynic aren't you. Lol it's obviously her story she's telling which sounds very very sad xx

Just read your last post...
Deffo elope! Lol xx

I was trying to be the bigger person and invite her to Texas for a week, she’s in Florida. I’m one day in and I’m already exhausted 😭 we just had a super long text message argument of her saying I’m too sensitive, I take things too personal, and I can’t take a joke. And she said I yelled at her and disrespected her and embarrassed myself. I asked my husband and SIL if I yelled and they said I wasn’t yelling at all and I just said “not all men cheat that’s a generalization” which what part of that is disrespectful. She said “if you don’t like my opinions then walk away” and I was like girly?? You’re in? My house? If YOU don’t like what I GOTTA SAY then you can walk away 😂

"If you don't like my opinion then walk away" So she admits, that's an opinion; not a fact? Because I know men that would not, could not, and will not ever cheat. You can't say things like that, and it's pitiful her husband would say that he would cheat on her. I'd be done with the trip and tell her to go back to Florida, that you only want to take care of one child crying. Bye mom! 👋🏼

Who says that in a room full of couples? I would be one thing if it were single people but jeeeeeez.

So messy omg 😳

Cut her out

I don’t agree that what the MIL said is true. Maybe your husband would but there are lots of us in happy, healthy, loving relationships that do not agree with a statement like that!

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Post partum dad

I have a 2 month old. A few weeks ago my husband crashed out because he didn't feel like he was getting to bond with her. I started exclusively breastfeeding around that time and honestly didnt see the big deal. Baby and I left for a few days and when we got back home, everything was fine. He was extremely hands-on. He helped with my meals, her bedtime, bath, stories.....for a few weeks it was great. Then he randomly sounds depressed af. He says our lo is better off without him, he wants to sleep all day , he asks me not to watch tv then tried playing a video game. He refused to reply to me when i asked any follow-up questions. Then he woke up our baby trying to race me to the bathroom first thing in the morning . He's doing a weird mix of crying, trying, and giving up. Im starting to feel like I cant handle him not being able to handle life with baby and just want to be alone. Are there resources for men?

Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

My 2 year old won’t eat nothing but snacks

Is this normal ? He won’t even try anything I eat .. he really only like pizza fries and spaghetti… nuggets and snacks bananas some other fruit but like anything else he won’t eat if try but I don’t want to force him I’m just I feel like bad I mean he isn’t losing weight I breastfeed mostly still

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Shift worker daddies - advice please?

My husband works shifts (6am-6pm days or 6pm-6am nights) so when he’s on shift we either get about an hour or 2 before he goes to work or an hour or 2 when we gets home with him.

I don’t think people who aren’t married/have babies with shift workers fully understand the impact of feeling like a solo parent sometimes.

Does anyone have any advice? I do have parents who can help but I struggle to leave my baby with others as I always feel like they don’t understand the need for tracking wake windows or feeds and our baby will not sleep unless we black out a room or go for a car drive . Everyone seems to think ‘if he’s tired he’ll drop off’ - no he’ll just get overtired and have to then pay for it during his night sleep. So I feel like it’s just easier for me to do it all myself.

When my husbands off work he is great but I do take the mental load of telling him what to do or even reminding him of wake windows etc because he’s not here and forgets routines. He’s also being tested for ADHD currently so there’s that on top of shift work.

Just looking for advice on how to stay sane/keep routines or share loads with shifts workers?

Thank you ❤️

Feeding

My son is coming up to five months and I just started giving him oatmeal and rice cereal. When can you start trying veggies or fruits? I only give him the oatmeal or rice cereal once a day right now which is what the paediatrician had said to do. I’m just curious to when anybody tried anything else with their kids cause my son eats a lot of formula and he’s VERY curious when I eat.