Baby circumcision

I just got back from having my baby circumcised...he's 7weeks old. Listening to him cry was terrible. Why don't we talk about this?...I mean I know people do have their boys circumcised and others don't but for those who do, why don't we have a trauma group or something for when you've come back. I mean now I d0nt even know how to hold my baby coz I'm not sure if I'm hurting him.Wow...tell me it'll be okay guys..I wonder what's gonna happen once the anesthesia wears off 🥺🥹🥹 will we be up all Night?...PS. I'm the first in my family to do this,this early. My relatives that do do it, have their sons go to the bushes and all and they older so.... I did it this way coz well I was raised in a Jewish household and they circumcise at 10days after birth so iv always said if I have a boy I'd do it that way although we a few weeks in lol.
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I'm a girl mom, no words but sending love, strength and hugs your way

@Kaye thanks...I was a girls only mom until now lol. I guess I never thought I'd have a boy. Even so though why don't girl moms have an idea or hear boy moms talk about it...it's like a secret. Maybe it's just me

I got my son snipped he was about 8 or 9 months, and I think the worst is when they wake up . I refused to change his diaper his dad was the gentle giant with that part, but as long as you monitor and keep Tylenol on hand, they are just fine mine slept through the night, no issues

@Dineo I'm 12 weeks now dont know gender yet, but everybody (but me) are saying its a boy I'M SCARED!

We made the choice to not circumcise and I really don’t regret it for a second. There’s no right answer, it’s all in how you feel. OP, he will heal and it’ll be a memory, but do allow yourself to feel what you need because in addition to this, you’re also going through postpartum which is very very difficult. Give yourself lots of grace and love

I live somewhere that they will either do it at birth within 10 hours or after 1 year because anesthesia is no joke. I don't think you will hurt him just be sure to do what the dr tells you for after care. My son got it at birth. He was awake and didn't cry at all he was entertained by the dr and nurses. The only issue i had was I watched it and it's different now then how they did it to my nephew so seeing him in this vice like contraption I was like they are hurting him!! But he was absolutely fine. I used Vaseline on it like I was told to do and I forgot once being in a hurry because I was in a public bathroom and he did get a bubble blister but it went away in a few hours after I did the Vaseline again.

People have so many opinions about circumcision and most of them are all myths or half truths that's why many don't talk about it. He will be groggy and probably fussy but he will be totally fine if you follow the care instructions. Give yourself some grace and your son some credit. Babies are tougher than we realize.

Thanks so much everyone. All your comments are putting me at ease. Yes I'm using Vaseline as told by Dr and he's been asleep...I do need to be gentle on myself.. I am I hav 3daughters and I'm studying so most nights lately iv been up doing assignments of baby is asleep which he isn't lol. My eyes are burning so I think sleep is catching up to me ima try nap while aby sleeps his anaetshia off lol.

@Kaye why u scared?...don't be

I had my sons done at 3 days old and he didn’t cry at least not when they doctor bought him back to the room and even during the healing he never cried when we changed the gauze or anything however your son shouldn’t be in pain from it after he may just be uncomfortable currently but you can always give baby Tylenol

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My son was circumcised at 2weeks as that was the earliest appointment we could get. A local anesthetic cream was used so it wasn't painful but the doctor said he'll feel slight pressure. He cried a little but was fine afterwards. I gave him baby tylenol though and used Vaseline generously before wearing a diaper. Don't worry, your baby will be fine. Don't be hard on yourself. Also, you won't be up all night. He should sleep like normal.

7 weeks? Why did you wait so long? Our experience was nothing like that.

@Shannon I have been trying to get an appointment since I got discharged from hospital but wasn't winning then wen I did get hold of the Dr's rooms the receptionist was new and told me he doesn't do it once I'm discharged...after I'd booked another Dr who does it but is very busy I got a date for July and literally the day I booked it this Dr's rooms called saying they apologize the receptionist is new and gave incorrect information and said to come today. Also I wasn't scheduled for a csection it was an emergency and I didn't even have my gynea come in so it all happened so fast...my first csection I don't know how u guys do it..wow. I swear if I'd had a csection with my first child I'd probably only have one child*hides*

@Dineo wow that’s so wild! So sorry you and your son had to go through that!

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It’s unethical just the same as having ears pierced being a mum of 5 boys having 3 brothers it’s not very done in the uk very rare and why would anyone put there child through this is just not right

@Francesca Its a cultural thing though, its not so cut and dry. I didnt with my son, but I was conflicted. I have a brother whoes forskin swelled and cut off the circulation to his tip and he had to get a circumcision at 20 and almost lost his pecker. I also was shocked when I saw my first uncircumsized penis, I was worried a mean girl would make fun of my son. My son has phimosis, which is where the foreskin is very tight and I have to keep an eye out for ballooning or anything out of the ordinary. He may grow out of it and it will be just fine, or he may need to get circumsized. I have also seen botched circumsizions which look crazy. So either way theres a risk.

@Honor medical is different doing it for no reason is wrong . Cultural changes with age that so we grow I’m from an Indian family where arrange marriages was culturally normal till my dad refused and changed that and married my mum who is Irish/ Italian if we don’t change it for our children then we are failing as parents

@Francesca We didnt know at birth my brother or my son would develop the condition. These conditions are why people choose to circumsize and not risk it. Its religion for some people also. You have to appreciate that fact. Circumsizing my brother when he was too young to remember would have saved him a lengthy hospital stay, pain, embarassment, etc. I chose not to with my son because of his fathers input and I am generally against medication of any kind especially the vit k shot they want to give at birth if you circumsize. Im hoping my son has no issue.

@Honor it’s the same with appendix you don’t take it out until you need to if nothing is wrong leave alone. What your brother went through isn’t going to be everyone it’s rare as I say in the uk to have it done and it’s not common for someone to suffer what your brother had. As stated religion changes as we learn and grow there’s a lot of things in my religion that have changed with them times and so should this.

In the US, baby boys get circumcised while they are still in the hospital after birth. There’s really nothing you can do to hurt the area unless you’re unnecessarily rough with him.

Awwww my 3 week old is going in Friday to get his done and I told my H that he’s the one who has to take him. As a mother I can’t handle hearing him crying.

I’m scared. My baby is 8 weeks, and his appointment was scheduled for today (the earliest we could get), but had to be rescheduled for next week! They said nothing about it at the hospital when he was born, and I was out of it, I didn’t even think about it. I really wish we’d gotten it done immediately.

There is no problem, deciding circumcision is the right choice for you. I know too many men who had late circumcisions. Circumcision is right for a mother who doesn't want to worry if their boy will/ can/ remembers to clean properly, circumcision is right for a mother with multiples. There is a reason in the US, that we predominantly circumsize. Follow the care instructions, offer him pain relief per Nurse dosage advice for the first day-4 days when or if you notice it might be bothering him & keep it lubricated/ clean as you can by changing his diaper appropriately. No soap baths for a bit. He will be just fine❤️ I'm sure it shocked him more than anything that he was 7 weeks old! (Not your fault) His first time next to vaccines feeling pain, the mom guilt gets better as they get older 😉 I'm guilty I didn't let my daughter play a mean game with her Barbies with me bc I'm not raising a little bully 😆👏🏻

A trauma group? For knowingly circumcising a baby?

You willingly chose to mutilate his genitals and you think you’re the one who needs trauma support?

@Sarah yes this 🙌🏽

I have three boys, all circumcised, and they were done a day or two after birth. None of them cried doing or after. For diaper changes I just made sure to use a good amount of Vaseline and gauze for the first couple of days so it did not stick to the diaper, or so the diaper would not irritate it.

@Francesca You cant just insist some one should “change thier religion”. Some people feel that thier eternal soul relies on thier strict adherance to thier religion. To write that off to well change it and be disingenuine to your religion and risk your god punishing you is really not fair and its insensitive.

@Sarah all the men in my family are circumcised and happy to be, it’s belittling and dehumanizing to call them “mutilated”

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@Shannon it’s a belittling and dehumanizing to mutilate your child.

@Shannon isn't awesome to get such heated advice from someone who doesn't have one or have a child that has one? My son had zero issues with it being circumcised. My question to the people so convinced it's mutilation is how would one known what it is like to have a foreskin or not have a foreskin unless they had it done later in life? It's also not removing anything so I don't get peoples arguments about it.

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