Hormones or do I want to leave my partner?

I’m 36 weeks pregnant with my second. I feel like I’ve faced most this pregnancy on my own due to my OH working away and going to a football tournament abroad etc. I feel really guilty but I’ve hated this pregnancy.. I had two miscarriages last year and was desperate for another baby and feel bad that I’m wishing this time away when I should feel so much more grateful. But I can’t handle the emotional rollercoaster. I honestly feel like I hate my fiancé. To be honest, he hasn’t been overly great at helping me out with our little girl and I’ve had little to no rest.. I’m still working but still do everything on my own, food shop, mow the lawn, put our daughter to bed, feed everyone. I don’t feel like I’ve been looked after much. I’ve made it clear I’ve struggled this time round. I’m still teaching dance but my legs are in so much pain from varicose veins and all I needed was for him to come home from work and let me have 5 minutes before he did stuff for himself. I’ve had an absolute breakdown this evening in which I’ve told him I don’t want to be with him anymore - this wouldn’t be the first time I’ve said it when feeling overwhelmed - but part of me thinks that I actually mean it this time. I love him but do I really mean this or is it just my hormones and general hate for my current pregnancy state? Help a mama out…

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I hated mine. Gave birth. Waited 3 months and made the decision to leave. I can’t say if you really mean it or not and neither can you. I’d wait to make a rational decision without all the hormones and pain. Until then, day by day. Stay in gratitude..remember baby isn’t in your arms yet, what’s here today isn’t promised tomorrow. Don’t let your hormones cloud what you wanted. I know it all too well!

Mowing the lawn??? Girl , no!
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Can you get a cleaner to help out? Sometimes minor issues can seem big when hormones are raging xx

As long as he's not cheating, lying, beating. If he's a good person with annoying habits then aren't we all hey 🙂

seems like he’s not even offering help anywhere. That’s not a good man

If he’s not even trying to help or be better, I would leave. Especially if you’ve threatened to leave before. He’s not going to change, and you can keep threatening all you want, but it’s obviously not doing anything to him. I think you need to show him in some way that you’re serious about doing this on your own if he doesn’t step up

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