Agree with the other comment and if not for yourself then definitely for your child. My ex partner and father of my son was the exact same way with our little one. I split because not only is he being a bad partner, he’s a bad parent and by staying together you’re showing your child what a bad and unhealthy relationship is and it says that example and simultaneously making it her problem by staying with him. I know it seems scary and like you potentially be doing more by yourself, but that’s not the case. I feel more in control and a lot less stressed since breaking up from him because I knew what my responsibilities were and where the lines were without the added stress of trying to look after a grown man as well.
I don’t mean to sound rude but how are you surprised by all of his behaviour ? He’s literally told you that you and your daughter have ruined his life. That’s such a disgustingly vile thing to say about your own child I don’t even know how you still stand to be around him at all. I can’t imagine how your daughter is going to feel growing up around a ‘dad’ that clearly has so much contempt for her and is happy to show her that. And to see him treat his other two completely different. It’s going to completely ruin her self worth and love. Believe me, am absent father would be so much healthier for her than the one he is right now
This breaks my heart to read, your daughter deserves more than this. It’s very unhealthy and the best thing to do is leave if he’s not stepping up
What a bellend! He doesn't deserve u or your daughter. Hate hearing these stories where men can not be bothered with their own kids. It makes my blood boil!!
This could have been me writing this, my partner is exactly the same. So sorry you're going through this. You deserve better. Don't get why men are such dickheads and think it's okay to treat us women like their skivvy and don't appreciate us at all and show us love. If you ever want to talk you can message me anytime x
I’m sad for you. But I’m so sad for your daughter. That all sounds heartbreaking. I would do yourselves a favor and leave, like others said you’re already doing it on your own. It will be stressful at first but in the end you won’t have to worry about his absence. You’ll just know he’s already gone and won’t feel the pain and frustration that you used to.
I can't leave, it's my house 🤣 but I agree with all the comments. My own father walked out on my mum when she was 3 months pregnant with me, I met him briefly when I was 11 but I quickly put a stop to that because I realised how toxic he was. I'm still thinking things over, I've tried to explain my feelings to him but I just get attitude like 'so you're saying I'm a shit dad' .... well yeah! If he does ever engage with her it's when he's pissed and she's tired and I'm trying to calm her down ready for bed, and i really don't like him holding her when he's pissed 🤬
Can you ask him to leave? I know it’s a lot easier said than done, but it all just sounds really toxic for your daughter. I’m not even sure how long you guys have been together but from the way he acts I can’t imagine it’s going to get any better for you.
Serve him with papers!! It's your house, so kick him out!! You are capable of taking care of yourself and your daughter. Take some time to heal and be a HAPPY mom. Then, find a man who loves you AND your daughter. You deserve that.
See that’s the point. If you don’t trust him holding his own daughter when he’s angry, then why do you trust being in the same household as him? There isn’t really anything to think over imo
You need to leave his ass. That’s unhealthy for you and the baby. You’re basically a single mom in a relationship from the sounds of it already. You and your baby can figure it out.