Intimacy after episiotomy

Had an episiotomy 5 months ago and midwives/doctors have all said it was healing fine. I did have an appointment around 3 months PP due to light spotting from the area, which seemed to stop, but they mentioned I had some granulation tissue(?) Have tried having sex twice recently, with plenty of lube, but the pain gets way too much so we have to stop before we can even get started. I don't really know if it's a doctor thing or just need to persevere, but wondered if anyone else has had similar experiences with healing and pp intimacy struggles? 🙈