Funeral

Why would you not attend the funeral? X

Unless the funeral will be some sort of dangerous event then I don’t see why not. It’s not going to do anything to your pregnancy? Bit confused x

first of all, im so sorry for your loss. second, im sure both mom and MIL speak from a place of love but you should still go if you feel up to it. the older folk are superstitious when it comes to these things, but you should be able to celebrate your grandmother’s life with the rest of your family. again, im so sorry for your loss 🤍

Hiya, I’m so sorry for your loss. I went through a similar situation a few months ago as my culture is strict about not going to funerals when you’re pregnant. However I was told that if you can go if you tie some red ribbon around your belly. It’s all just superstitions of course but I ended up going to the funeral and using the red ribbon because it made me feel a bit better and meant I could go without also making my parents more anxious! Hope this helps. Ultimately you should do whatever suits you best and will make you feel least anxious, guilty or upset xx

I went to a funeral whilst pregnant (around 20 weeks) and my little girl, who I was carrying at the time, is now nearly 3 years old. I’m incredibly superstitious but it didn’t even cross my mind whilst I was pregnant not to go! Do whatever you feel most comfortable with, but in all honesty, if anything was to happen (which is so so unlikely) it would be coincidental and not because you went to a funeral 💜

I went to funerals when I was pregnant

Why can’t you attend a funeral? I will be going to my husband’s nan’s funeral next week at 39 weeks pregnant (all being well!)

I was 25 weeks pregnant when it was my’s funeral and it didn’t even cross my mind not to go, and no one mentioned anything. I also read a eulogy. I didn’t know there were any superstitions about being pregnant and going to a funeral. So sorry for your loss, it’s hard to deal with grief let alone when you’re pregnant and your hormones are all over the place. I hope you find some peace from going xx

Go to the funeral. I am so sorry for your loss.🤍 don’t let others scare you! I let my MIL scare me with her superstitions and I wish I hadn’t.

I’ve never heard of this. I was 7 weeks pregnant at my nans funeral and no one said anything x

I was about 32 weeks and went to 2 funerals. You'll be fine plus its your grandma

So sorry for your loss. There is no way I would of missed my grandmas funeral so if you want to go don’t let superstitions stop you. You don’t want to regret not going for the rest of your life. And not going might cause you to hold resentment towards your mum and MIL in the future

That's definitely just a superstition. I went to a funeral while pregnant and have taken my youngest to two funerals as he was a newborn and breastfeeding. Nothing bad happened! So sorry for your loss. I think it's more about whether you want to go or not. I personally would.

I had this with my auntie when I was pregnant I wasn’t allowed to attend as the family didn’t think it was appropriate that a pregnant women attend the funeral due to superstition of it being unlucky apparently so I never went sadly x

I had funerals threw both pregnancies I was early on with daughter and 36weeks with my son for me if I didn't go I wouldn't have grieved properly do what is best for ypu not them if you don't believe in the superstitions there's no harm don't 🙃

I was around 24 weeks pregnant when I went to my grandads funeral, even helped plan it, my daughter is now nearly 3 and I didn’t realise there was any superstitions! I would go because it’s your goodbye too, I’m so sorry for your loss 💜

I've never heard of that, I'd still go

Never heard of this superstition...

It’s common in many Eastern European cultures. (Maybe others too I’m not sure) Where are your mother and mil from? Do what you feel most comfortable. Can you attend virtually? I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you love my grandma passed away 2 months ago. I know it’s not easy.

It’s up to you, it’s none of their business.

Go to the funeral, don’t let silly suspicions keep you from saying goodbye to your grandma ❤️

So sorry for your loss. I’ve never heard of that before either. That’s crazy. Lots of pregnant. People in my family have went to funerals while pregnant.

My mum said the same thing to me when my gran passed. Luckily my girl came 5 days before

I understand the superstition and normally I would say don’t go however it is your grandma. My grandad also passed away during my pregnancy and I went to his funeral but he was cremated so we did not have to go to a cemetery. If you go and feel uneasy just don’t attend the burial

I attended my granny's funeral at about 25 weeks. It's even more unhealthy to not process grief.

attend that funeral you’ll regret listening to them for sure. I attended my grandmas funeral when i was almost due with my first he’s perfectly fine & i attended another grandmas funeral with my second around 23ish weeks baby hasn’t been born yet but he’s also fine and almost due to come.

My grandma died when I was 35 weeks pregnant. I didn’t, and still haven’t, mourned her properly apart from on the day of the funeral - little one was only 2 weeks old at the time. If you want to go, please go. If you’re grieving, it’s not going to stop just because you don’t go to the funeral. If you want to, and you don’t, you may very well regret it in the future. I’m so very sorry for your loss ❤️

Awww give your grandma a send off it’s so important to do. I’m confused as to why they are saying don’t go. Would you not go to a wedding?

I wouldn’t attend as I am superstitious

You should go. I would regret not going

@Francesca it’s because some people mainly older generation believe when you go to a funeral/cemetery spirits can try to attach themself to your unborn child or harm your unborn child

@Kniylah I see! Up to poster I guess :)

Hi ladies, thank you all so so much for all the comments - it really does mean a lot and I appreciate all the support and suggestions ❤️I have managed to speak to both my mum and MIL (both polish) about it, and I will be attending the funeral. Mil mentioned to me that when we was pregnant with my partner she was told by everyone not to attend her grandfather-in-law funeral and she did not. We spoke about how it made her feel and surprisingly we changed her perspective and view a little bit. It was mainly stories and superstitions that were shared among the older generations, but I don’t think I would be able to forgive myself if I did not attend the funeral.

@Chrissy thank you Chrissy! I will take this advise and look for a red ribbon!

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