Don't feel bad it's really hard adjusting to the 2 under 2 and it sounds like you're alone with both most of the time Knowing is half the battle, if you feel you're constantly putting your baby down, make a way to have her up. Wear her in a carrier, sit her upright. Your son, tire him out! Take him outside ever single day once in the morning and once after nap. Shadow him super closely so he has less opportunities to get into things. My toddler is rarely in another room from me and baby. Give him less screen time, my toddler was acting crazy after I had my new baby since he had more screen time. Make sure he has no juice at all, ever. Plan activities that require him sitting. Allow opportunities for him to be wild and free in bursts. Let him 'help' the new baby learn to crawl during tummy time Remember this is a phase and not a stamp on your motherhood. You got this!
Lol... I'm sorry, I know it is not funny but this is the exact thing I'm going through. My son is also 17 months old and my daughter is 6 weeks. My son is a complete terror. Neighbors has called police on us twice! Cos he is constantly stomping and banging things. He turns on the gas stove now and does several others things that I'm not even ready to start listing here. He doesn't talk yet as well but understands everything I say. I just take it all one day at a time. I'm sure this will pass. Stay strong Mama.
My daughter is 17 months and my son is 7 weeks. My daughter starts misbehaving more when she’s bored I’ve noticed so I try and get out the house after breakfast time (which sometimes is a massive battle in itself as we haven’t got stair gates up yet and she’s learned to climb the stairs and I’m terrified she’s going to fall down them so makes it hard to get ready). I would invest in some child locks for your doors. Maybe a stair gate? I also get worried my son will have a flat head as I feel once I’ve fed him I constantly end up just putting him down, but when they’re laid on your tummy that’s still tummy time! Maybe if you try go on a walk use a carrier for your baby? Luckily my daughter has nursery twice a week so I have two days to spend with just him. You could try giving him his meal closer to the floor, like a picnic, that might encourage him to eat more (obviously depends how messy it is!)
Also I’ve seen videos on tiktok about kids being high energy and activities to do before bed to help reset the nervous system. Things like throwing a weighted cushion or something onto the floor, punching a pillow, things like that. Maybe have a look and see if you could try any, just to get a bit of energy out of him before bed so it makes it easier?
He also doesn’t say any words yet apart from mum constantly, sometimes more sometimes again and that’s about it, how can I improve his speech as I’ve been trying and nothing is working x