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Feel like a failure

I’m 5 almost 6 weeks pp, and only produce 3-4 ounces of milk a session. My LO was born premature and cannot latch on properly, making breastfeeding very difficult. So to make sure my LO is getting enough milk, I pump as well

I’ve seen moms also 5 almost 6 weeks pp producing so much more than me and it makes me feel like I’m failing my child somehow

I have to use a wearable pump majority of the time because I’m home alone all day with my LO and I can never find the time to actually sit down and get a good pump session in.

I try to eat as much as a can. But like I said above, I’m home alone all day and can’t really properly take care of myself and my needs.

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That’s technically normal right now. 3-4oz is typically what bf babies end up eating as they start weaning off BM/formula.

That said, see if you can get the spectra 1, it’s a wall pump but still rechargeable/wearable if need be. You’ll do so much better with a wall pump than a wearable. You can also use the pump on one side and baby on the other.

I am so sorry for my mess ups/ I was half asleep 😭

here's some info on pumping expectations
https://www.instagram.com/p/Cvhpu-9Nu7Y/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

https://www.instagram.com/p/CzyjBb6N4IN/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

Breast compressions might help
https://www.instagram.com/reel/CjAbmBnDz8T/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

https://www.instagram.com/reel/ChMK6TRjKgV/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

And here's some info on getting the most out of your pump, including measuring flanges
https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cd5w4YBjUs8/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

2 1/2 to 3 ounces

okay, I’ll check it out, thank you

See you’re producing even more than you need right now for you LO! Don’t be so hard on yourself. Just continue doing what you’re doing and you should be fine!

3-4 ounces is a good amount mama! Looks like you have a good supply 😊

Your pumping output is not accurate, versus what your baby is able to get from you.

As for the mums who produce much more milk, they may have an oversupply, which is technically not “normal” and from what I have heard, having an oversupply is tough on the mum.

I have a spectra wall pump. The S2, so I’m not sure I can connect that to my wearable. And I’ve just started power pumping in the evenings. I’ll try stocking up on snacks. I do drink coconut water but have been inconsistent

I’m 6 month pp and only get 4-5 every time. You have to make time for the wall pump. I know it is hard my partner is away for work Monday to Friday so I’m alone too so I know it is hard but it makes a big difference. I was using those wearables too in the beginning but I didn’t start producing more till I started using the wall pump. Plus it’s 15 minutes and done. The wearable you have to wear 30 minutes to get anything. I try to fold laundry or do some kind of activity while I pump but I also just scroll. It’s a nice opportunity to just take a break a few times a day. You need to prioritize you too.
There are plenty of wall pumps not as expensive as spectra I used the ameda finesse and it’s about 80 dollars on Amazon and I liked it better than the spectra.

There’s a condition called D-MER, if you’re feeling mood dysregulation while breastfeeding you’re not crazy it’s a physiological response while breastfeeding. Here’s my presentation on this as I have experienced this with both of children https://youtu.be/pDjjkQrOP6c?si=SE1MOrbRfYV_Weob

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This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

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