Never ending sleep regression

I’ve been in the regression for 8 weeks now and nothing is getting better. I’m following all the tips to try help but I’m starting to feel like this will never change. Has anyone else had a very long regression and seen the other side? Some night she will wake every 45 mins crying. Other she’s might sleep for a long patch but wake early crying. If anything I feel she is getting worse! I’m so sleep deprived it’s really affecting everything else. Any tips would be so helpful as I’m starting to feel I’m missing something here!!!

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This is an example of last night 🤪

10th July bedtime

7:00 PM - Asleep in arms
7:45 PM - Unsuccessful transfer to cot
8:00 PM - Transferred to cot
8:30 PM - Awake
8:45PM - Asleep
9:30PM Awake
9:45 PM - Asleep in Purflo
11:50 PM - Awake
12:00 AM - back down but woke straight up
12:15 AM - Asleep
1:00 AM - Awake (L&R BF) & nappy
2:00AM - Back down
3:40 AM - Awake
3:50 AM - Asleep
4:25 AM - Awake
4:30 AM - Asleep
5:00 AM - Awake
5:15 AM - Asleep
5:20 AM - Awake
6:00 AM - up for the day

Sorry to hear your also struggling. Are you picking your baby up when they wake to get back down. We were doing well on self settling and again it seems to go backward and she won’t go back unless we pick her up and rock her! It’s so frustrating putting so much work in and going backward not forward! I can’t see how this ends!

Yeah everytime we need to pick up to cuddle. He's breastfed and so relies on us so much just for comfort. Has never self settled which I believe is completley normal for breastfed babies but sometimes difficult to function the next day with all the wake ups 🤪 he slept so well before the regression. It'll phase out one day I'm sure just got to keep riding it for now xx

We’re dealing with this too, it seems to have got worse in the last couple of weeks. I’ve started bringing him into bed with me after his first wake and then co sleeping for the rest of the night. If you can set it up safely and follow the guidelines I’ve found it much easier as he can just find the boob or cuddle up to me and then he settles back down - rather than having to keep getting him in and out of the next to me. I’m still putting him in the next to me at the start of the night so he knows he’s meant to sleep in there! Hoping we can ride it out and it will be over soon

I followed safe sleep guidelines and co-slept. We both got sleep and it meant we focussed on what was going right rather than what was going wrong.

Ours also took 8+ weeks! I found it got worse before it got better, keep strong, it will soon pass xx

when you say 8 plus what's the plus 😂 we're on week 8 😆

Yes would love to know how much longer you mean as I’m losing my mind here! I really thought I was coming out of it but it’s got so much worse! Self settling was going really well but now she’s screaming for ages before I have to get her out again as she can’t calm herself!

ours was about 9.5 weeks, at the time I didn’t realise it was the regression because she was 3 months old but it happens at different stages for different babies. Hope it’s not too long for you girls. It really does feel like it never ends but it does xx

thank you! ❤️xx

This post has made me feel so much better but hate you are all going through the same! Thus started for us when he was about 3.5 months and still hasn’t stopped x

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My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.

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I’m going crazy. Baby born at 2.26kg. Slow to put on weight. This last week hasn’t put on any. Been trying to feed him at night and he’s not interested at all. Fast asleep. During day he will have 5 minute gulps and that’s it. He don’t cry for milk. I’ve got to keep offering to him. I try to offer it every hour but I don’t know what I’m doing. HV said nutrition comes after 5 minutes so I should pump first and then give him. I find it so hard. I tried to pump one boob nothing came. The other abit came. Tried giving him express he’s not interested in that too. Sometimes he will go for a longer a feed but not long at all. He’s 4 months and is currently 5.46kg. I have no family or friend support here and wish I had a cook, cleaner and nanny to help with everything so I can concentrate on the little one. I don’t know what’s wrong with him but I’m loosing it. It doesn’t help that my also stressed generally about my relationship and life circumstances. Any advice that will work. Any comfort you can give. I’m fed up. Is this regression - not feeding. He’s fast fast asleep. I’ve been trying to push the nipple in but that mouth is closed shut. I took some clothes off. Changed his nappy but he’s still asleep. Please help

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8 week old in sleeping bag for first time as big enough! Do you feed your child in the night whilst in the sleeping bag or taken them out, feed then transfer back to sleeping bag before putting down?

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I have a 3 yo and a 2yo that are in bed sleeping only just now. I have a 1 yo that’s been sleeping from 8 o’clock to 10 o’clock. I just gave her her milk and she would’ve gone back to sleep if it wasn’t that
I lost her dummy earlier in the day when I went out
so now she won’t go back to sleep and she won’t accept any of the other dummy’s i have!😔😔and it’s 10 o’clock and I’m gonna be up until 3 o’clock with her and when she does want to go to sleep i won’t have any dummy to give her she will accept and she won’t sleep without it i just wanna cry 😔i have nobody to talk to and i feel so alone i get no support from anybody i’m so tired and i don’t feel well to top it off😔

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