I was too afraid to leave at the time. But I shouldn't have been bc he's the one facing charges for abuse
@Candice she isn’t with him! It says she avoids him at all costs and is scared he’s gonna find her
Honestly have you thought about getting a restraining order? Just in case he does find you
You need to get a protective and restraining order and they should be able to keep the child from him if he’s abusive
@Gillian depending on the state she lives in, you have to have proof he abused you or is harassing you.
@Lexi I live in Canada, and I can get a restraining order but right now we don't know where each other lives, I have him blocked and he's rarely emailing me. Any emails I have I keep. The only way to get a restraining order is to have all the information. And it seems he's once again living in the same end of the city I'm in.
@Kati oh, could you hire a PI to find him? My restraining order in Wisconsin (when I lived there) was denied for lack of evidence- I had it but since I didn't submit it with the paperwork b4 the hearing the judge refused to look at it. She also told me in Wisconsin the law is proof of beating and rape is the only thing they considered for abuse
@Lexi I'm currently on disability for chronic pain diseases that I've had for years. One of the reasons I've been wanting a hysterectomy for the last 4 years, but we had to go through some testings and wait periods first. So I don't have the money to spare for a PI
@Kati Oh. Some people are good at figuring out addresses. I've done it before. If he has any court hearings- his address would be in the database. Sometimes, you can search his addresses. There's a PI website you can use (I think it's like 14 dollars to get any info they scrounge up)
@Lexi that's what I'm scared of. His mom asked for my address and I gave her my mom's. Just cause I don't want mine written down so any of his siblings could get it even if they don't trust them. I do know last year I needed to track down my grandparents friends phone number in Florida (from Canada) cause my grandma was stranded in the US after her passport was stolen. Took a bit, but I found her and got them together. I'm just hoping he doesn't go to that length to find me
@Kati yeah that's why I use my mom's address for court proceedings. My ex has history of stalking and showing up to my house "to talk"
@Lexi my ex did the same thing. I asked my mom for her permission cause hes been to that house once before. But anything that has to do with court or his family, would be going to my parents house. Its not that I don't trust her, I just don't trust him. He's so controlling and manipulating
Please don’t stay there. Run as fast as you can.