Cosleep transition

Is your husband treating you well and prioritizing you and your intimacy? Other than this is he meeting your needs

My son sleeps in the bed with me And my partner all the time and if my Partner told me to put him in he’s own bed I would make him sleep on the couch do what u think is right because at the end of the day ur the mother ur the one carried the baby for 9 months not him

Your baby is so young. Please prioritise her over your partner. Cosleeping/bedsharing is so biologically normal and baby is clearly needing you and you needing her! You can all sleep safely in bed together if needed. Research safe sleep 7 and get him to educate himself too.

what lottie said. keep sleeping with her if that’s what you want!!

My baby still does not like the bassinet. He either wants to co-sleep or sleep in motion (swing, car seat, bouncer, etc.) If your husband is like me, I got a bit stressed about trying to get baby into the bassinet for sleep until I found the “Safe Sleep 7.” I now have a sleep arrangement based on these guidelines. Communicating about your husband’s reasoning and safe options can be helpful if he is coming from a place of concern for your little one’s safety. If that’s not his reasoning for pushing for the bassinet, then I think priorities will need to be discussed! 😂

I definitely understand how you feel! I co-sleep with my baby and before she was born I swore I wasn’t gonna. Now she has been in my bed since 6weeks, she is now 14weeks. I’ve thought about putting her back in her bassinet but I feel so guilty/sad when I think about it so I just haven’t been able to bring myself to do it! If you want to sleep with your baby you should, express your feelings to her dad! She’s only going to be a baby for so long 🩷

My husband was against cosleeping from the start. Made it clear our bed/room was for us etc. He was weirdly controlling about that. With our first, my husband insisted that he was in his own room at 6m. With our second, I co-slept a little, our bond was better, and I had a mini-crib beside the bed until he outgrew it. He stayed in our room in his own big crib till our 3rd was a couple months old, then moved into his own room. I'm currently working on rebuilding the bond with my second child because of lack of attention- I abruptly stopped breastfeeding him at 7m (too ill during pregnancy) and he hated formula too. My third baby... I told hubby I was doing it my way. Co-slept with him right up until 18-19m. He is my happiest, most well adjusted baby and I have zero guilt. And I'm glad I co-slept because he had several incidents of stopping breathing during sleep and had I not been there to wake him.... well I don't know and don't want to think about it.

This is more of a safety issue, my partner sleeps dead n have almost suffocated me on multiple occasions 😂😂 like during my pregnancy I used to fight for my life being that he would cuddle me but had a death grip n i couldn’t even go to the bathroom without aggressively waking him up. He’s been more tired lately n wants more space on the bed so I can stop waking him up in the middle of the night or in fear he might hold the baby while sleeping. He isn’t that strongly abt it n will sleep on the floor if he’s too exhausted for our safety. But I’ve tried being a little considerate and try to transition her back to the bassinet bc we have tile floors so I’m a bit concerned abt his health sleeping on the cold floor.

Another sleeping spot wouldn't be such a bad idea, then. Both for baby's safety and for your husband's sleep health and everyone's peace of mind. Just be very frank/practical about it. You and your husband can always connect in other ways during this short phase of co-sleeping

I feel the same way!!! My husband wants my LO in his bassinet but he prefers sleeping cuddled up next to me. It’s so frustrating.

This might be a stupid question but could you change the positioning around to make it work? For example have husband one side of you and baby the other? Then you would create a wall between them?

@Yasmin yes this is how we usually sleep, we’re first time parents so we were a bit scared we’d give the baby 3/4 of the bed n take the other 1/4. I’m always between them. Our daughter have recently started scooting to our side n that’s when his fear started. So im not sure how I could change it but if you have other ideas im happy to try it. He doesn’t care abt cosleeping as I’ve told him it works for me and her. He just doesn’t want an accident. He sometimes try to take a nap before bed so he’s not too tired. N he’s never complain I was the one who asked him why he was sleeping on the floor n how I could help his fear n that’s how the bassinet situation started. I think how I worded made him seem like the bad guy. 😂😂

@Jodi 🇹🇹🇨🇦 yeah he doesn’t care n he chose to sleep on the floor for his peace of mind. He provides for us so I wanted him to be comfortable too and not get sick so I took the initiative to make the transition. He said that would give him a little bit of peace knowing she’s not within reach of getting smushed. So I’m thinking of possibly getting him a blow bed. Since the bassinet isn’t working for the LO.

My husband knows not to say anything about baby’s sleeping arrangements, because I’m EBF and I’m the one that has to wake up throughout the night. My baby has a mini crib up against our bed and I will put her in bed with me in the mornings, usually when my husband gets up for work. The mornings are the best time to catch some ZZZs because we can sleep together! Also, cosleeping helps to reduce the risk of SIDS. Keep young babies close to you to help them regulate their respiratory system (and body temperature and nervous system and much more)!

He could get a blow up bed and sleep on the floor on that, problem solved lol