my ss is amazing but i dont know what im doing wrong

okay so my ss2 is an amazing boy!! however i’m finding myself more and more irritated with the small things he and my partner do. i am a 19F and being a new parent is hard. but it’s a lot harder when you’re kind of just “thrown into the mix” within the first time of him meeting me i had already gotten the title “mama” (6 months ago). me and my partner live together and have my ss anywhere from 3- 6 days a week. normally on friday mornings i have him by myself and thursday nights i normally have him too. although i love this baby more than anything i still see myself giving him verbal responses i am not happy with. (nothing more than verbal). but idk. the schedule as which we have him is very different by the week and that really stresses me out. and on the days we have him me and my partner have no time together. i’m just trying to figure out how to go about any of this. idk where to start. thank you if you read this

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Oh wow! You’re only 19? This sounds like a lot to take on so young. I’m sure you’re doing a great job.

@Pam i hope so. i’m trying really hard. but it’s really hard. i sometimes wonder if it’s even worth it. but it’s just my mental state

2yos are challenging even when they are your own. They test boundaries and aren't able to follow rules, etc Even the best parents will occasionally give their children verbal responses they don't look like or feel guilty about later. Be honest with your partner about when you need a break. Ask if he can do better with communicating the schedule and keeping it consistent. If there are stressful things that keep coming up for you with your ss, step back and let your partner handle it. Nurture the love you have for your ss and try to be aware of when something is damaging your bond. Your bond is the important part. Good luck. 🍀

Whatever you decide how to handle things, just don’t lose yourself in the love for your your partner and the baby. Don’t forget that there’s YOU, too. What you feel and what you think absolutely also matters. It can’t be “them” all the time. And voicing out your feelings to your man, isn’t bad at all. He has to know that you miss your time together? Coz first of all, you both too are a couple, and not just a dad and a “mama” to the kid.