finding out my husband is gay
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Not my current husband, but my ex I had the same thing happen. I had to go through his phone and send myself the proof and confront him that way. I would tell him that no matter what he’s your husband and you love and accept him and he can talk to you about anything and go from there. I’m sure if he really is gay that he still has a lot of love for you but he could be struggling a lot with himself.
Go to your family or a shelter.
I’ve not been in this position. This is easier said than done but you should talk to him about it. Being in a marriage because of fear (financial need/support) is not the best reason to stay in the long run. The situation impacts not only you, but your kids in the long run. If he’s not willing to stop what he’s doing and be a loving partner then you have to think about what the rest of your life could look like with him and make a decision for you and your kids. Stay or let each other go. Most importantly talk to him and find out what’s going on without judgement.
Im on the same boat. My advice, after your baby is born and you are ready to go out and make money again, build yourself up, settle yourself and leave his ass. That’s cheating, and I cant be with someone who does behind my back and at the end it will make me feel dirty.
it’s happened to me i’ve gone back to school he says he’s not gay but idk what to believe my therapist says a man can’t get an erection if he’s not into it i’m sorry your going through this i have came to the terms of just leaving when i’m financially stable because i don’t want to struggle with all of my kids i have three under the age of 5 message me if you want it’s hard to talk about this subject with close people because of the taboo of it i’m getting my degree in nursing and he’s putting me through college so i guess that’s a plus 🥲 but i want to be loved and i don’t think he can give me that anymore not the way i want him to plus i feel the same way sex kisses attention is always forced 🥲
@Josephine i agree with you i feel like if my husband would have came to me about his intentions of wanting to explore his sexuality i would have been open on helping him with that what women wouldn’t want a devil three some lol
Oh goodness that’s very rough! But if he’s done it at least twice, it might be time to move on.