I would have completely understood if he would've told me he had a rough night sooner so I had enough notice to find another way there
I’m sorry you’re going through this. My husband always says you don’t wake up one day and not love your person anymore, there has to be shit that’s built up overtime that was swept under the rug or wasn’t talked about as a whole. You say you don’t want to leave, have you spoken to him about how you’re feeling and how he makes you feel and maybe why he’s feeling that way? Love shouldn’t be hard but it is a choice. Everyday when you wake up you have to choose your person over and over again and if its worth it if you’re happy it’s not hard, if you feel you’re having more bad days then good maybe it’s time to reassess but PERSONALLY I think it’s definitely time for a conversation. I hope things workout however you hope they will! Good luck girl!
I’m so sorry you’re going through this, but it doesn’t sound like drifting apart, it sounds like you’re being treated badly. If you’re being completely stood up and he’s jeopardizing your employment prospects, he doesn’t treat you or care about you the way a “true love” would. You deserve better. Be strong!