Behavior Issues

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My son is doing this also, I think it’s normal at this age 💆🏻‍♀️

@paula but then how do we navigate this and not make it worse? 😭 trying to break the cycle of spanking and yelling back in my family

It's definitely normal!! All three of mine did this and my youngest is being a little stinker lately haha. I think they just get frustrated because they can't talk and we can always understand what they want/need so that's their way of communicating...it gets better I promise!

@AlisaHonestly I think just patience and trying to Talk through things so if they throw something explaining like you don’t throw the blocks you play with the blocks and then showing like you playing with them

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My son acts like a pterodactyl when I’m Changing his diaper. Honestly I feel like I’m gonna change his diapers to the like ones that look like shorts because I be strugggggling to keep him Down 😅

Definitely a phase. I too came from a yelling/spanking family and do not do so (as much as possible. No spanking, but my voice definitely gets raised, more so at my 5yo. Then, Mom guilt). Anyway... 1) I try to narrate feelings so that they're better able to do so when older. "It makes me feel angry and sad when I don't get what I want right away, but sometimes we need to wait." <- this honestly helps ME even to realize like, yeah, this is the WORST thing for my tiny human because they haven't been without 2) I practice taking "Big big breaths" when they're getting really upset. So I mirror taking slow inhales through my nose, holding it, and then slowly releasing through my mouth. Doesn't necessarily work now, but my goodness was this a lifesaver later on with my older one. But I started it early.

3) When trying to kick me, hurt me, etc. I gently hold that body part and say "I won't let you hurt me" until the crazy wears off a bit. If too crazy, I'll step away, saying the same thing. During diaper changes, I'll also just try to keep her hands preoccupied

For diaper changes, I let my son watch Ms. Rachel or Bluey. I give him a toy or book to keep him/his hands occupied. And then before I even start, I say “get your kicks out!” And hold my hands up for him to kick. He picked it up pretty quickly, but at first you may have to bicycle kick her legs for her. It doesn’t work 100% of the time, he likes to try to roll away sometimes still, but it’s definitely made it less challenging. I also do deep breaths while I hold him when he has his “big feelings”, so he can feel my chest expand and fall

@Tiffany I like that you narrate feelings! I’m going to have to start taking that into practice.

I’ve found meeting them with love helps. So when i change his nappy i tell him. I then give him big kisses and cuddles as I’m laying him down. I give him a toy he likes and then try and give him as much eye contact and smiles as possible. It’s all normal, to shout and discipline makes no sense as they are just trying to navigate the world without being able to communicate. Mine gets annoyed when he can’t get his book. I say, do you want mummy to help you get your book? He then stops the screaming and nods yes. He screams when we aren’t ready to leave the house immediately after I say let’s go out. They have no concept of time so to them they just cannot understand why we are taking time! I’m sorry this may not be a solution, just know we are all going through the same thing x

@Kassidi Be prepared for them to use that phrasing when they're older, if you're consistent. My 5yo is so incredibly emotionally mature; he regularly names his feelings. I've found him narrating my 17m old's feelings too 🤣🥰