Why do people only use me even when I'm in crisis?
A person I've spent time with a few times recently contacted me for some tips on childcare after surgery. I gave her some ideas. She also asked about my health because I've had a lump in my breast that had a bloody discharge for about the last 8 months while waiting to see a specialist. I had been trying to keep it a secret but it sometimes had leaked through my clothes when out and it's hard to make excuses for. I told her that I have a diagnosis now. Stage 3 breast cancer. We are doing chemotherapy to lengthen and not save my life. I probably have 8-12 months unless there's a miracle somehow. She knows i have twin toddlers. She knows my son has special needs and requires a lot of care. Instead of supporting me she wants me to sew a bridesmaid dress for her daughter. I don't care if I'd get paid potentially, if I'm well enough to sew it will be for my daughter. I feel so sad. I don't want to tell people I'm going to die. I don't have any real friends I'm not going to be missed by anyone but my children. I just feel so sad that even when I'm going through it apparently people think I need to give them even more.
I know who you are girl, you’re a great mom and you’re always so kind on here. I remember you, and I think about your situation often, hoping that you’re well. I am so, so sorry to hear about your diagnosis… the incredible fear you must be feeling is just not something I think can be put into words but my heart truly goes out to you. This is a post I was hoping would come with a different story attached. I so, so hoped you would be okay and that you’d find yourself being treated with the kindness and care you deserve both at home and out and about. You pour so much into your friendships and you seem like such a wonderful soul. This is not what you should be dealing with right now, from anybody or under any circumstances. I’m sorry an insensitive and selfish acquaintance had the absolute gall to approach you that way given all you’re going through. And I’m so sorry you’ve had to wake up into such a nightmare... I wish it wasn’t real. You don’t deserve this. I’m so sorry❤️