Helping

What are his health issues ?!

I’ve had to have multiple talks with my husband because he was the same way, i threatened to leave multiple times and he’s been great ever sense. I’d definitely have a serious talk with him, because your baby isn’t just your baby, she is both of yours. Takes two to tango,

I’m a SAHM and it’s new for me to not have a job or things outside the home. My husband works full time. He loves our son but had some definite engagement issues. He was business as usual any of his hobbies were uninterrupted while all my time was gone. I literally had nothing for myself. It took a lot of communication and support for us to make a change. Now we work as a team and have a great routine. My son LOVES to spend time with his Dad and my husband knows when I need help. But I had to ask A LOT! Crying, demanding, and losing it didn’t work. It wasn’t until we were able to see things from the other person’s perspective that we were able to support each other fully. We had to learn a new way to communicate and motherhood changed me sooo much my husband had to get to know the new me. We still work hard at it every day. I think that’s what relationships are- they are never just “easy”. Ask for help before you’re at a melt down level. That’s what finally worked for me.

@Cheyenne he has blockage and had a stoke but is able to do things like normal with the exception of heavy work

@Tayah Carrico the problem is I have several times and threatened to worse and nothing

@Amanda see he knows. He told home dishes, feeding her and picking up after her etc and he just to me chooses not to so I don’t know anymore

I’m going through this as well I’m pregnant again with my so my boyfriend works full time and I’m with the baby all day and he comes home sees her for a little bit and leaves me stranded til nighttime to hangout and I’m up all night with our baby whiles he’s getting the best sleep while I’m mentally losing it.

@Amanda I needed to hear this!! This entire thread actually. Becoming new parents has been hard...

@Amber I think it’s all about expectations. My husband and I have very different ideas of “clean” or what the house should look like before it’s time to relax. He can be lazy but mostly it’s just a difference in expectations. I expect the house is tidy (at a minimum), dishwasher started, and a reset on the kitchen (clean and ready to go for AM coffee and breakfast). He would be ok with dishes in the sink and pots on the stove. I would get soooo mad that he “didn’t see” the mess/ issue. We finally aligned our expectations and now we work as a team toward that goal. Day time is on me but AM and PM team work has resolved 90% of our issues. We have a routine and my son, husband and I all know what to expect. We say what we mean and need and we try to do it with kindness. Stop holding it in Mamas- but also- speak to your partner with respect and care. If you love them you need to act like it- same as how you want to be spoken to. I know what you need seems obvious, it’s not.