Husband doesn’t have patience

My husband is a great father but he doesn’t have much patience with our son when he throws tantrums or when he starts crying and we aren’t sure why. I feel like he has unrealistic expectations as to how our son should act. He’s 18 months old and he can’t tell us yet why he’s angry or upset and crying and I try to get my husband to understand that but he’ll end up saying something like “well he shouldn’t be acting like that, there’s no reason to cry etc” I feel like he expects our son to know how to regulate his feelings and like he should already know how to behave. Anyone else dealing with this? Any suggestions on what I can do because when I try to tell my husband that he’s still to young to know any better he ends up frustrated with me.

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I understand exactly where you’re coming from because I’m dealing with the exact same thing. Like everything you just said to the T. And I get so frustrated and it pisses me off so bad. Like it’s so annoying

i understand this post to a T as well. maybe the only solution is to overly validate our partners when they’re being sensible , compassionate and most of all patient. they need to hear how much we appreciate their kindness or how much their patience means to us.

Give your husband some reading so that he understands that it’s the norm

I be sending him alot of reels relating to it 😂😂

Maybe he has some unhealed trauma? Have you asked him how it makes HIM feel when your son is throwing a tantrum?

He had big feelings in a little body. My sons father started saying he shouldn’t be throwing a tantrum when he was 9 months. They were little tantrums when you told him no or took something away. He blamed me. Said that I’m “too nice to him” and that’s why he throws tantrums. I sent him studies and other reading. Still doesn’t get it. Some men just won’t.

Omgg same with me. My daughter is 18 months & my husband acts the same way, I’ve talked to him about it. I got to the point of arguing with him about it & that’s when he stopped complaining about it. It’s like they never understand until we have to argue with them.

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