Dropped Baby

Don’t be so tuff on yourself, it was a lesson learned 🩷 I’m sure baby is fine. You’re still a good mom, remember that! ❤️ If you didn’t care that she fell then that would be a different story… but you saw the problem, addressed it and I’m sure that now it won’t ever happen again. ❤️

Please don’t be hard on yourself or too hard on dad either. Yall are both learning and he’s probably feeling guilty as well. Babies are resilient. Mistakes happen and hopefully dad learned not to sleep in a chair with her

Please take her to the hospital to be checked

Aw bless her! I’m guessing you had to take her to be checked? Don’t blame yourself, you should be able to catch up on some sleep and trust your husband to look after her. Accidents happen, as long as he’s now learned his lesson. If you stopped having your nap and end up being sleep deprived, you’re more likely to make mistakes yourself. So definitely don’t blame yourself and keep having those much needed naps/time to yourself!

@Joana I called the nurse after hours and they said she’d be fine. Just to keep watch of her for the next 48 hours

Hope your baby is okay! Just be cautious and wait an hour or longer before she falls asleep

I will never forget the cry when my baby fell when I dozed off while breastfeeding her! It made me feel like the worst mom in the world. At the end of the day, new babies are just so exhausting for all involved, and accidents like this happen all the time. It'll be okay. Easier, less exhausting days are ahead, I promise. ❤️ (At least, you get a grace period between the newborn stage and the crawling stage where it's the eye of the storm before you're exhausted in a whole different way lol)

Babies are so resilient, and falls happen to so many of them! My baby fell when she was 4 months old and I still feel so guilty about it, but she’s 13 months old and perfectly fine!

@Allegra it’s actually not recommended to keep them up after a fall anymore

@Daija what’s the reasoning for that?

Hopefully you have taken the baby to be checked ?

Poor baby 😔 accidents happen I would go to the hospital though just to be safe

Don't feel bad! These things happen and when they're on the move they fall a lot! My little boy fell on his tractor and hurt his eye while I was getting his bottle. I know how horrible it is when they're hurt but it will happen again. It's okay

My 13 month old launched off the couch today like buzz lightyear. She had a red mark for a few hours & it’s gone now. I have tile floor! I feel awful still! But like pp said, babies are resilient & she will be ok🤍

Don't be tuff ,it happens. Still keep being a caring mom you're 🥰♥️

You can only do your best and you needed some rest, so you could not have done any better ❤️

Don’t be so tough on yourself, you all need sleep. Sleep deprivation is wild. Just be aware of signs of possible concussion.

He may have learned his lesson but I would go over handing baby off, putting her in a safe space like her swing or bassinet, or at least moving to the couch, or even laying on the floor on a blanket or two if he’s feeling tired again and reiterate. God forbid it happens again it’s better she hits the couch or even rolls onto the floor vs a long drop that can hurt her brain! Men always fall asleep when they’re “resting their eyes” so to do so sitting in a chair over hardwood with a baby on his chest is really irresponsible of him honestly. Hope she is okay and you’re not too down on yourself. Things happen 💕

This is similar to a family. The father had his baby laying on his chest while on the chair and he fell asleep, hours later the mother came home and looked for baby only to find baby had fallen down the side and died. There's a video of what happened posted on Facebook.

It happened to my daughter too, my partner took her she was asleep on his chest, he fell asleep and she rolled off it onto the wooden floor. When everyone is beyond exhausted accidents happen. I hope your baby is ok and so are you and your partner x

Don't blame yourself , my little one is 9 months. Fell of the sofa at one point. Just yesterday, I slipped in some grass and dropped him. We both were head to toe in mud. Babies are resilient. If it helps, at night when I'm tired, doing night feeds. I bring my Kindle, this helps me stay awake a alert.

As long as you've had baby checked over it'll be fine. I twisted my ankle at the top of the stairs and dropped my son all the way down, had a huge bump on his head and immediately went to a&e. He was fine! Babies somehow do bounce 😆 But yep tough lesson learnt for dad!

Oh shit sorry to hear this.. i hope ur baby is ok 😔 😩 we need eyes 👀 open 24.7 with little ones .. i kno its easy said then done esp when ur feeling tierd… my girl is 9 weeks old yesterday and the nights are better now but the first few weeks when she was born i was wakin up around 1am an again 4/5am my eyes use to be so tierd and the borin part with windin them i felt i could easily drop of to sleep wit windin her on my lap but i kepted myself awake 😩.. now she settles an sleeps all through the night… 🤞 Hope ur ok dont blame ur self.. Hope this is a wake up call to ur partner xxx

It happens ! My baby fell off the bed when she was 4/5 months I felt awful about it. That looks like quite a bruise those so I’d take her to A&E , her eye socket looks very swollen X

Please bring baby to get checked at hospital even if baba seems fine it’s import to get checked x

I'd be taking my baby to A&E if that happend, even if the doctor said not to, taking no chances!

@Allegra that is actually not the guidelines anymore. They can sleep whenever they like. It's if they are sick that you have to worry.

It happens wayyyyyy more than you would think. Sleep deprivation is rough for all and drops can happen to anyone, including great parents. Glad you got her looked at by the nurse and everything will be ok. Panicking doesn’t help and you did the right thing. Glad all are ok and don’t skip sleep because of this. if you feel the anxiety getting worse after this please reach out to your dr. Get some rest love ❤️

When my brother was a baby he wriggled out of my Dad's hands and down the side of the sofa and got wedged head first. 32 years later, it's a story we remind him of. Accidents happen, they really do so don't beat yourself up or your partner. It wasn't intentional.

@Korissa 💯 my ex husband was similar and it pissed me off so much. I hate to say it but guys want easy and don’t take things as serious as they should

I think you should take them to A&E just because of their age! Even if they seem fine it’s important to get checked! (Paeds nurse) x

Apply ice and do consult Gp .

Mumma it happened with me when I was taking shower and my baby was dropped out of bed while being with father. Father had a loud alarm in his cell and he left unattended for few seconds and he rolled over and fell down . Luckily the bed level was low and there was carpet .we were on a 3 day holiday trip . I tried to control my emotions as my husband was worried the whole day . Same morning , we were also stuck with crying baby in the middle of sea ride where I could not breastfeed him in open air .I managed to make him sleep inside 🌧 with my one hand ( pating on head with prayers ) Learning point : As mum we need space and peace for toilet , bath and sleep we are humans not machines . As a partner they need to learn all this to support and understand how mothers are doing everything alone . After that day I saw a big change in my partner and he does focus alot . So take it as learning but yes as mom you will always feel awful as I was feeling why I went for shower:( but I need it

@Allegra when my son fell they said recent studies show keeping them up causes their brain/body to feel more distressed and slow down the healing process

Don’t be so hard on him or yourself. Your new parents, things happen.

That's tough. I found to help with the sleep deprivation I'd nap while my babies slept, so find somewhere safe and hopefully your bed is safe because of cosleeping and have a long nap together somewhere safe so you can relax and switch off

Babies bounce. I would get it checked out and have dad put the baby in a safe place to sleep/hang out if he’s tired in the future. Sleep deprivation is real and it was an accident. My kids (8 total) have fallen, been dropped, wiggled out of things, rolled over for the first time into the floor, even once a dog flipped over a containment device, etc etc it happens. Most of the time they were even bruised. Only once did they need a head CT (a fall at my parents place) and it was fine.

Babies are VERY resilient. Do get her checked if that puts your mind at ease. When my son was 4 months he dropped off the sofa( not while I was sleeping but still) and I cried for several days the guilt was something else. Accidents can happen when people are exhausted. Just be extra cautious and do whatever you can to prevent them. Your husband must be feeling so so bad now. Sending empathy x

You’re both doing your best. It’s unfortunate that it happened but that probably won’t be the first or last time it happens. I know I used to stress to my fiancé how we can’t leave the baby alone for one second because that’s all it takes for a baby to fall— well, I turned my back one time to grab a pamper that was literally within arms reach and before I knew it, my baby fell off the bed. After that, I changed my tune. Obviously as a parent you don’t ever want something bad to happen to your baby but things WILL happen, no matter how cautious you are. My daughter is 14 months now and she’s fallen twice. Luckily no major injuries but it still sucks when it happens. I’m glad she’s ok ❤️

I didn’t drop mine but he did roll off the bed

It's normal for a parent to drop a baby some way or another, it doesn't happen to everybody but it happens, I am probably over protective of my son but even myself have let him slip onto the ground (twice) once my back has turned, you are both exhausted. Maybe you could of prevented it, but also maybe not 🤷🏻‍♀️. Im sure it will probably happen again some way or another, there will be no lasting damage for you to be stressed about, your tiredness is probably adding to your emotions, I say move on and be glad it wasn't a bad fall xx

@Daija I was unaware of that. What’s the precautions to take when events happen like that?

My man think his super man I always told him not to get too confident as he is fast and rolling from belly to bacl and back to belly and one time he just turn around and my rolliepollie fell out the couch had a bump and was sent to hospital glad his ok ... from then he loves my baby and take care of him more ... and focus more than anything ... wake up call

Don’t beat yourself up about it! Accidents happen, but I would for sure take her in. My six month old rolled off our bed this past weekend and her scream still haunts me. She didn’t have any mark, but taking her to the doctor help ease my mind and they also gave me a list of things to look for over the next 24-48 hours.

Go immediately to A&E! Any fall at this age can be serious even if you don’t see it externally, I hope she is okay.

Seriously my worst nightmare it’s hard for me to leave my baby alone with him cause I could see mine doing something like this too. 🤦🏼‍♀️😠 I would be so mad.

I hope you went to a&e my partner tripped and fell with baby he tried to go on his side but banged baby's head a little bit, we went to a&e and they kept us for 24 hours in hospital checking him

My poor bubba has been hit in the head with a fridge door at 8 weeks and fell out of our bed right on to a phone charger at 5 months. At some point in between, I also dropped my phone on his head. Sadly, that has happened like 2 more times since 🙈 He is a perfectly healthy 3 year old. Accidents happen. Nothing about this situation is your fault. It's your partners but if he was apologetic, he accepted that it was his responsibility and knows never to do it again, then I'd give him grace. Again, you are not at fault. You did nothing wrong. I agree with those saying take her in to get checked. Just to be safe. I hope you are all OK ❤️

Hope your baby is doing well