Hello, I’m in a terrible situation please!

I’m 23 years old and married a man of 54yrs. We got married in December 2022 and things have become so rough since then. He tells me he doesn’t love me after every single disagreement or argument. This man is a divorcee so he has experience in marriage and separation. Whenever we argue and I’m trying to tell him my feelings he uses his phone to record me. He bullies me over every single things and tries to control me by all means. He doesn’t welcome any opinion from me as he tries to talk about him age and how I should respect him in everything. I have a 14months old and also currently pregnant and this man has become a beast to the extent that he beats me up few days ago simply because I found out he has different ladies he goes around having sex with and he doesn’t return home until 1:30-3:00am. He beats me and I slapped him at the back then, he sent the picture of his back to everyone including his family saying I beat him. The situation is out of hand and I’m loosing myself. I feel pains all over my body right now. I have no friend or family and I just need advice on how to deal with this situation please. Thank you

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You need to get to a women’s shelter because he could hurt you and the baby even more!

there, Sorry to hear this. It is best to contact the police about this, 999 or 101 you may be able to report it online. If you are not comfortable notifying the police you could contact Solace or Womens Aid which domestic violence charities. Otherwise, you can notify your midwife about this. They have a duty of care to you and your unborn baby. I would recommend you start to write down when and what has happened. If you have been physically hurt by your partner try to take photos after what has happened so to document injuries. I hope this was helpful.

Contact you midwife and they will help you and get you and your baby to a safe place if that’s what you want or pop up to the antenatal clinic triage or epu at the Hosptial and ask them for help they will get someone to come and help you and keep you you safe xx

Hey you can message me if you like I’m the same age and from harlow , I hope your okay x

Hi! You need to leave asap. You are in such a vulnerable position at the moment being pregnant and looking after a baby and he takes advantage of that to put you down and physically and mentally abuse you. You might not see it because you are scared of being alone or leaving him and feel trapped, but you need to leave as this will only get worse. Give this organisation a call 08082000247, tell them your situation and they will help you with a shelter until a more permanent home, which I’m sure you will get very soon given the circumstances. I understand you’re probably not ready to call police not to escalate things, but please for your wellbeing and your children’s wellbeing leave as soon as possible. Also, don’t tell him anything and just act as normal. Take care sending you hugs

Thank you all

@Abbie All right Thank you

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