How did you tell your firstborn about a second baby?
Just the thought of it has me in tears, I know this sounds crazy but I feel really guilty and I'm so scared of how things will change. I don't want to upset her or take away from the undivided attention she has now, I know deep down that giving her a sibling is such a gift, but I can't shake this feeling of guilt. It's like I'm in denial and just want to keep it us 3 for as long as possible, but this poor baby - why am I not excited to celebrate it?? Because I AM happy, this baby was planned, the way I'm feeling about it is so confusing to me. We haven't told anybody at all for this same reason, so maybe sharing will help?
What is the best way to let my little girl know what is happening? She's 3 so has pretty good understanding, I think that's why I'm afraid to say anything as it's not going to be an abstract concept, once she knows she knows. The trouble is I want it to be happy and exciting for us all, but I feel like I might cry saying it out loud! What is wrong with me 😢
I waited till the baby was at 12 weeks and I told my 3 year old that mommy has a baby in her tummy. I said she gets to be a big sissy and it is the coolest thing ever because I was a big sissy and it is so special. It will change. It is a massive change. It is hard in the beginning for some. For others it’s an easy transition. My daughter was upset with me because I had to focus more on the baby and that was just a part of adding another one. She was angry and kind of gave me the silent treatment but I was able to reconnect with her and I made sure to have little mommy daughter outings even if it was just to target and getting a Starbucks treat. Now my girls are best friends. My youngest is 2 and my eldest is 6. They fight all the time but they get a long all the time too and it’s so special and fun to experience. It’s a massive change and it’s perfectly normal to grieve your little family of 3. This is an amazing chapter you are opening. She will love it even if it’s not right away.