Issue with grandma

Anyone else got an overbearing mum? She is very opinionated and controlling, I feel like we are constantly butting heads. She gets frustrated when I remind her 'I am her mum' but I only do that when she's trying to force her opinions on me. For example holding a piece of toast to babys mouth to 'give her a taste' when she was only 4 months and I'm waiting until 6 months to wean her! Which she fully knows as she says to me every day about starting baby on food. Feel at a bit of a loss:( I want her to be involved but it's giving me anxiety about all babys firsts. She came over today having bought baby weaning stuff/bowls and spoons...pushing her agenda again and leaving me feeling ignored.

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I can’t speak from experience but if my mum did this a. She wouldn’t be allowed with baby unsupervised and b. If it carried on i probably wouldn’t see her until I’d started weaning if she couldn’t accept my decisions( we’re also not weaning until 6 months) then we could try again or the threat would make her back off 😅

I’m sick of people saying to my little one (4.5 months) ooo you could do with a bit of porridge. Like why? He’s not hungry. Not fussing not crying? So what is giving your the impression he could ‘do with a bit porridge’. I’d simply say to her again, thanks I will put them in the cupboard until she is 6 months old as that is when I will be weaning her and definitely not before. I’d kinda just keep correcting the things she is saying which you don’t agree with but I’d also not let her have unsupervised contact as she could do things behind your back x

As difficult as it may be, I would let her know that this is upsetting you. We had an issue with my MIL when I was pregnant and even when I asked her not to, she would stop for a week then start again as if I hadn’t said anything. My husband told her how much she was upsetting me and she finally stopped. This issue happened before we were trying to conceive, during my first pregnancy which ended in miscarriage and then again with my pregnancy with my little boy so went on for a long time. I now say straight away if I have an issue with something or I make a joke of it and things seems to be better now x

Imagine if your baby had a baby ... You'd be so excited to re-live it, the closest you're ever going to get to having that moment back. I am in no way shape or form saying that she's right, I am entirely behind you here! But just approach it in that way, level with her and tell her how magical that truly must be, that there's an opportunity to have those gorgeous undescribable moments AGAIN, but she has to trust you and go WITH you on that journey, not against you. Invite her to be part of things maybe, say to her when we're ready to try foods, come with me on a shop to get some bits, maybe pick her fave food and say you can be the first to try that food with them? I feel like you said you're butting heads, maybe if you offer that softer approach she will reciprocate? Xx