Baby only sleeps on top of me

Hey. I need some advice as I think I’m about to loose my mind. My baby is three weeks old and he only sleeps on top of me. Days and nights. If I try and put him down he’s silent for maybe 2 minutes before he starts screaming. He screams in the car, cot, baby Bjorn bouncer. He’s only content if I’m holding him.

My daughter slept in her crib from day 1, woke up for feeds and then back to sleep. I expected the same with this baby but three weeks in and he’s just not having it.

I don’t know what to do ?! It’s been three weeks of basically no sleep at all, 30 minutes here and there. Any advice??

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No advice, just to say I'm in the same boat. Everyone keeps telling me it will pass in the first 4 weeks or so and some babies just start this way.

My baby is two weeks old and can never sleep in her cot at night. She needs to be held to sleep however during the day she will happily nap in her cot. I’m going mad as well getting no sleep and holding her constantly

If you breastfeed a good transition is laying down to breastfeed where you aren’t holding them. They normally fall asleep like this getting them used to not being held. I co slept for a week like this (not advised and not for everyone but I’m a light sleeper and we use the owlet sock) then she transitioned into her cot the following week. Now i say this about my girl, but my boy was an awful sleeper and that method didn’t work so im sorry if it doesn’t help with you. I just had to co sleep with my son otherwise I would have gone crazy. You got to do what you got to do. Sending love your way 🤦‍♀️

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I had the same thing happen to me! 1st baby in cot fine. 2nd baby nope 👎 not until 6 months old. Turns out he had reflux, so no sleep until his tummy was ready for flat beds.

Same for me ! But just discovered the dokatot is a good ( temporary) solution.

We just started to get better sleep as we succeeded to put our daughter on her back in a dokatot .
I placed The dokatot on the bed and i sleep close to her.. I have to make sure she burped and was starting to fall asleep then put her in there with a hand still on her and my face close. she never accepted the Moses basket. Maybe try dokatot seems like a good transition and to avoid reflux try to hold her at least 20-40 minutes before

Hello
absolutely easy solution here 🫶🏽 Just sleep together. I'm absolutely baffled why is in England such a fuss about it. Where I'm from 90% of mums co-sleep and they get proper nights sleep, babies are happy and settled. You learn to BF while sleeping and don't ever need to get up from bed. I talked about this briefly with my midwife yesterday and she is on the same boat, she just said sadly that's the mindset in England so far.
What is dangerous is dozing off while sitting and holding the baby. As long as you and your partner don't smoke, drink, have any sort of drugs including sleeping pills or anxiety pills and you breastfeed you are good to go. Why fight baby's most natural need for closeness and comfort and causing ourselves sleep deprivation and stress?
If you formula feed than unfortunately coslepping isn't recommended. Good luck ❤️

My first had low temperament and sleep easy. My second had silent reflux, which we found out was because of tension and a tongue tie around 3 months, so always contact napped. This time my third, who is 4 weeks only contact naps. Laying on my side whilst breast feeding helps to get an hour or two of sleep.

It’s pretty normal at this age considering they spent 9 months inside of you. The world is scary to them, and they feel safe with you. Heating your heartbeat and smelling you.

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