11 month old throwing tantrums

My son is around 11.5 months old and the last week he’s been throwing huge tantrums.

If he wants my keys but I don’t let him hold them then he starts screaming and kicking his feet. If it’s nap time but he doesn’t want to nap then it’s constant screaming. He has also started wanting to be held but only by me, and I have to stand up. If I try to sit down or my partner hold him then once again, it’s screaming and kicking.

Is this normal? He is generally well in himself and eating, drinking, wet & dirty nappies etc. It’s just the tantrums! I have no idea what to do. I’m stuck between not wanting to constantly give in and make him even more spoiled, but then also thinking that he doesn’t understand these big feelings and he will just feel upset whilst knowing mummy isn’t there for him.

Any advice will be gratefully received 🥲

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Omg I am going through the same thing with my little girl who’s the same age.

She seems to want everything in her sight and if she doesn’t get it then will sometimes have a tantrum.

I’m trying to stick with the repetition of saying no , kids learn by repeating so when she can’t have something I will say no.
If the moaning tantrum turns into crying then I will try to sit with her until she calms down.

But I’m also worried about rewarding bad behaviour so I try not to pay too much attention to her.

I also sometimes try give her something else to focus on like another toy , which seems to work but not sure if it’s the right thing to do😅

Yes my daughter is the same. 11.5 months old aswell and gets super angry when she doesnt get something she wants.
When i tell her to sit down on the sofa, she looks at me and screams angrily and tells me off 🙃🤣
Think its just to see how far they can go and look for boundaries

My son is the exact same. We had our 12 month review and spoke with the health visitor about this in particular and she said it’s completely normal for this phase to happen around this age and it does fizzle out 🤞🏼🤞🏼

Same! So much sass. I try the give her something else to focus on and most of the time it works if not I put her in baby jail! (A travel cot)

Yep could have written this, only mines been in the middle of the night full on body thrashing, kicking etc in the end after 2 hours my husband took over and literally just held him in a hug on his knee and let him thrash, but he was safe after a few minutes he stopped and relaxed. This happened over 2 nights and my husband doing this seems to have helped as he's not done it again. I just physically and mentally couldn't keep hold of him safely when this was going on. It was worse if I out him down too. I don't think he knew what he wanted and was so overtired he tantrumed.
When he's tantrumed over something I've taken away I've given him something I've wanted him to have instead and after a couple of seconds he seems to have forgotten what it was he wanted (keys, remote etc)

How is everyone else getting on? The tantrums are just getting worse over here😫 we now have a scream he does whilst crying when he doesn’t get his own way. I honestly have no idea what to do..

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