Can’t cope anymore

I’ve posted on here before about my baby being fussy at 4 months. Its been the day from hell today. Constant moaning and hysterical crying. Refusing her feeds. Crying hysterically in the bath, literally put her in for 30 secs and had to get her out. I don’t know what to do anymore. Its been weeks of this and i can’t cope. I just want to run away!

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Have you spoken to your home visitor?

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Have you spoken to your health visitor or GP ?

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This sounds so difficult, sending hugs. Is there anyone who could look after the baby so you can have a break? It sounds like you need some rest so you can look after yourself, and then have more energy to look after baby.

I'm not sure if you have tried but often my baby is much less fussy when out and about. She can be really fussy at home, but as soon as we get some fresh air and there are lots of things for her to look at she is much happier. Can be as simple as taking a walk round a supermarket.

Perhaps you could also visit family / friends so they can hold the baby for a bit. And your LO can enjoy a change of scene.

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I'm sorry mama! Sending hugs. Agree with what the others have said regarding GP & health visitor.
My inbox is also open if you need a chat. Xxx

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Have you tried calpol? My baby had a day like this and the next day two teeth popped through. Sending hugs - this stage is so hard. I also highly recommend Loop earplugs to take the edge off your nerves if she’s just non stop screaming

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You definitely need to speak to your health visitor AND see if a family member/trusted friend can take your baby for a abit to give you some much needed time out! Echoing others, it definitely helps to get out and about, even if just a walk around the supermarket or town centre. Don't let your baby crying in public put you off, that's just what babies do!

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This dosent sound normal, I think book a drs appointment for the little one. Sounds like she's struggling with something. But for yourself, call some family to watch her for a few hrs while you get some sleep and me time.

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i’ve spoken to both. Shes been checked over and they said they can’t find anything wrong

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i have taken her to the gp. They can’t find anything wrong

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I leant for you, not for baby. Speak to the hv about how it's impacting you 💗

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I'd next try, changing milk If bottle fed, changing nappy brand to see if causing irritation, same with washing powder.
Start by elimination, and just add or get rid of the items most likely to be an issue. Also see if adding coloc drops or something to the milk helps

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Check out these charities that help. Home Start pairs you with a volunteer who will come to your home and give you support:

https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/postnatal-depression-and-perinatal-mental-health/support-and-services/#:~:text=Voluntary%20organisations%20and%20charities,-There%20are%20several&text=Family%20Action%20offers%20specialist%20support,offer%20practical%20and%20emotional%20support.

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