@Sarah yes he is .
If he is an alcoholic, you should get him help or leave him. You want your kids growing up with a drunk parent?
Unfortunately, when dealing with someone who struggles with alcoholism, you are often arguing with a bottle, not them. You may have to give him an ultimatum. Keep the bottle and lose your family or go to rehab, get counseling, and get to actually experience fatherhood.
@Gemini obviously I don’t want that . My dad was a drunk and left his whole family. When I met my husband he never drank. But I notice he has a very addictive personality. He will get addicted to anything he tries . He’s also addicted to cigarets . Started same time as the alcohol really . He needs mental help and he refuse to go he will go physical therapy and spine Dr and foot Dr . But don’t like the mental health Dr because “they don’t know what they are talking about “ his words . I think he’s taking advantage of the fact that I have nothing or no one to go to . Because I’ve told him I’m going to leave if he continues. But I can’t go anywhere with a small kid that needs to go to school . I don’t have a car . We share one . It’s not like I can take my kid somewhere and bring him to school everyday. I have no car and my kid will be upset .
I’d get life insurance on him. Sounds like he is digging his own grave.
If he’s drunk before you have even got up in the morning then he has very serious alcohol issues. All the rest of your issues with him are unlikely to change unless he gets sober, sounds like you need to give him an ultimatum, get professional help or leave, it’s not a healthy or safe environment for a child to be in.
Unfortunately this situation won’t improve and he will only get help when he wants to get help. It gets to a point that pushing, giving ultimatums, talking about it does nothing because unless he wants to change he won’t. It’s selfish and fucked up but it’s only damaging you and your little one in the long run. It might be hard to start over or figure out what you’re going to do. Look for local supports in your area, talk to people, I’m sure there’s a way out for you guys because you shouldn’t have to live like this at all and you both deserve happiness. If you ever need to chat I’m just a message away x
I think you know what you need to do here to keep you and your child safe. Unfortunately, people like this will not get help unless they are pushed to it. If you can, talk to as many of your support network as you can, and make yourself a plan.
You should start asking for help and preparing to be on your own, and figure out how you can be independent! your kids will thank you later. You only grow up once …do not let them get damaged! I wish you the best Good luck 💕
I know the answer might seem obvious considering he was already drunk by like 7am, but is he an alcoholic?