it gets better. it might get worse before it gets better but it really will get better. i tried for 2 years and got pregnant when i decided to stop trying and it put me in a bad place mentally. i had a lot of resentment while pregnant but once i met my little boy i knew this is where i’m meant to be. find your village now and find people u can trust to watch the baby for spa days and night outs once baby is here. i still have days of resentment never for my son but more-so for the choices i made. also pregnancy fomo is real
Appreciate you both for sharing your experience it’s so reassuring to know that other people experience similar challenges. It’s hard because I’m the first in my friend group to be having a baby so not many people to talk to about it. Thank you ♥️ @Bianca @Siân
Pregnancy is hard work mentally, emotionally, physically and hormonally I don't think you can ever be 100% ready for motherhood it's such a huge lifestyle change. It does feel unfair with what we go through and have to sacrifice compared to the men. It's ok to not enjoy being pregnant you may feel this way now regarding regretting being pregnant but see how you feel once baby is here and you see and hold them for the first time. This is my second pregnancy and I do not enjoy being pregnant and all the symptoms that come with it, it is rough and I thought I wouldn't want to go through it a second time but here I am lol.
I had this, I completely get the fear and guilt. Me and my husband had only been married a couple of months and I thought we’d have loads of time to spend as a couple but instead I got pregnant almost immediately after having my coil removed. I will say it got better until I was in labour (but I’m terrible with pain so I know it was just that) and then in the hard moments where you’re learning as a parent. But I’m currently sat here with me 11 week on asleep on my chest after rolling over for the first time and it just feels right, I no longer feel like it should have been different - you will have your own timeframe as to when you feel ok, so take it easy on yourself and just enjoy the good moments as they roll around!
Thank you @Nicole and @Leah ♥️♥️🥹
It does get better. I always knew I wanted to be a mum and I loved children, built a career working with children and always imagined myself having a family. But just like you, I wanted to live life a bit and have experiences first. However, the time felt right with my partner at 25, as we’d been together 6 years and so we went for it. I thought it would take a few months or even a year, and it happened first try. And I suddenly felt robbed of that imaginary few months I had told myself I would definitely have. I feel like i disassociated for the majority of my pregnancy as I just couldn’t comprehend that this was really happening to me. But towards the end it really hit home what life was going to be like and I got so excited. And now she’s here, I wouldn’t be without her! Remember your hormones really make emotions feel intense. Give yourself a break. I can promise you, every horrible or sad thought you’ve ever had, someone out there will be able to relate xx
Thanks for sharing @Joss - it’s hard to remember sometimes that being pregnant means our hormones are intensified so we feel everything much stronger. It’s reassuring to hear about your journey - I’m feeling much better today and I think a huge part of that was being able to read so many perspectives that I could resonate with. Appreciate you ♥️
Oh bless you! Don't feel bad about this, there is nothing wrong with not enjoying your pregnancy and getting FOMO. I've had to cancel a very highly anticipated holiday that my due date fell on and it sucked!!! I also am in a position where I was just about to start my dream job and now this pregnancy will be holding me back a few years. But from experience, all those feelings of regret and sadness do subside when you hold your baby for the first time. These days will come and go, just keep remembering at the end of this you'll have a beautiful baby ♥️