Sometimes I don't feel like a mom
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I know if I leaned into the "dad" role, I would lose the relationship with my wife. That's a transition I know she mentioned to me she isn't sure she can be attracted to. But I didn't feel like this before he was born. Or am I just trying to find common ground with my son because he is going to be a little man someday and I wanna share common thing with him. Like a dumb haircut.
I agree with the first comment. I think you’re struggling with yourself and your identity. I also think a really good talk with your wife is needed, you can’t be afraid to express how you truly feel about things because of a reaction from somebody else, even if it is somebody you love. Im sure if you explain to her how this is really playing on your mind, she will be willing to listen.
Oh wow, I’m sorry. That definitely puts you in a difficult position.😞 For what it’s worth, you sound like a good parent. You’ve taken on a hands-on role in your son’s life, you are present and that is something all children need. 💯
Based on many of the things that you said, it sounds like this is probably more related to your relationship with yourself and your identity rather than not feeling like a parent, or “mom”. What if you were to lean into more of the “dad” role, do you think redefining your identity would better affirm your relationship? Also, I think all parents question themselves and their feelings to some degree so I don’t think you are messed up. 🫶