Out of control

I’m starting to actually think something is wrong with my kid. We stay at home and we definitely have a structure within our day. Wake up we eat breakfast- story time -we go to the park -he takes a nap. We run errands after his nap- more storytime and more outdoor activities. I take him to this gym class with other toddlers sometimes and every time I go, he literally has complete manic outbursts . He cannot follow directions at all. All of the other kids there can sit down and do stretches and sit down and listen and my child cannot. When you’re at home, he listens to me, but for some reason when we are out in public and around other people, he turns into a completely different child. We just literally had to leave his class because he was screaming so bloody murder loud I had to pick him up and leave the class that we were attending. This is the second time in a row . I feel like I have failed him somehow. Anytime we’re in public he is manic. As to what you do and I don’t know how to control these things anymore, and it’s even more upsetting when I see children, his age being completely normal in public.
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He may have different needs than other children because his brain processes differently. My three-year-old also has a difficult time sitting for activities and was just diagnosed with autism. We have been in the early intervention program (we live in CO but I’m sure are similar programs in other states) since he was 1 1/2, which has been super helpful with developmental delays and they also helped with referring us for his autism evaluation.

The large amount of people may be overstimulation for him. He could definitely be autistic. With the right supports anyone that is autistic can do well ( hi, late diagnosed autistic person here.... Long time ADHD diagnosis)

Hey mama, it could also just be a behavioral quirk. I would mention it to his pediatrician and monitor. My sister cried anytime a stranger looked at her for the first two years of her life and I’m not exaggerating. She did grow out of it and is not autistic.

I left bawling my eyes out bc i dont know what im doing wrong. He’s still screaming and crying now that we’re home. He has hit all his milestones so i havent thought about him being on the spectrum but in my heart i know something is wrong. He cannot follow instructions when around kids his age and cannot sit down. I don’t even know what to do about these classes because we spent so much money and nightmare every time we go. We’ve had to pull him out swim lessons because of the same issue and I don’t know if taking him out of all of these social interactions is the healthy thing to do for a child that is clearly struggling. Im so broken right now

Hugs 🤗 I know it can feel very isolating. My son had stranger danger similar to my sister and is only now coming out of it this past month. It’s hard to feel comfortable in public when you know your child is not comfortable, but stay the course as best as you can. Maybe try something less stimulating maybe a small play date even with just 1 other child?

Maybe have him do one on one things for a while? Maybe try open gym where you're with him and it's less overstimulation? There is a screening at the next visit, but you could always reach out to your pediatrician portal if you have questions between visits

Hugs 🫂

You are not doing anything wrong, it may just be some extra effort to understand him and how he interacts with others. Again, it’s nothing you have done so stop putting that pressure on yourself. Every child is different.

Just want to also say that even if he is on the spectrum, there is nothing wrong or bad. They just process information differently. My son recently (in the past few months) has gotten to the point of playing really nicely with other children and being interested in and friendly with new kids he sees when we are at a playground. I teach piano and have a student who was on the spectrum (he just graduated and started college) and he was one of my best students ever and accomplished so much. Again, not saying your son is, just offering encouragement if that were the case and for whatever he may be struggling with right now.

I just want to clarify if I sounded insensitive to folks on the spectrum- my husband was dx with Asperger’s when he was a kid & we have already gotten our son evaluated once through EI for being a late crawler. ❤️ I was just trying to put this mama at ease a little bit because it’s a lot to swallow when this is happening with your kiddo and often times kids grow out of those social behaviors. Much love and I hope everyone has a great Halloween 🎃

I too hope i wasnt being insensitive but I am overwhelmed with my child’s behavior right now and understand he may just be learning/processing differently than others

I hear ya. I have learned to “meet him where he’s at” when it comes to social settings and really anything, but to also reach out for support through EI/pediatrician when necessary and definitely through peers which is what you are doing here on Peanut. ❤️ Feel free to DM anytime. 🫶🏼

I didn't see it as insensitive. It's hard when your child is different in any way to not compare him or her. Ayden isn't walking yet. But he fast crawls, cruises.... And might get to walking through climbing things! Every kid is different and it's so hard to recognize different as not being a bad thing. Those of us on the spectrum have brains that are different from those that aren't. We don't need curing. nd the groups that push curing are the wrong groups. ( And ABA , while it's okay, definitely isn't the best therapy..... Occupational therapy, and play therapy are a lot better because ABA just teaches kids conformity and what not to do.... And play therapy uses acting out scenarios to teach a child through play. And play is how children learn the world around them

I reccomend the book playful parenting

It's written by a play therapist and teaches connection over distance with your child, using play to teach them things, and to reach them when they are withdrawing and not communicating

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Time in and connecting.... Over time outs. Your child is t acting out to spite you. They are learning and exploring and can't communicate things. Having big feelings they can't easily explain is one reason that a child may act out

I have to remind myself that Ayden will walk when he's ready

I don’t think it’s anything you’re doing wrong.. I think (like others have mentioned) it’s just too much for him.. some kids are like that. You could try a quiet place and slowly build him up to a more bustling environment. Good luck ❤️

Oh I’ve been there! Try listening or reading the book, no bad kids by Janet Lansbury. It really changed my life. Great tools for these exact situations. My biggest struggle was with my second kid. At one point I carried him out of a library kicking and screaming while wearing my infant in a carrier, pushing a stroller, and convincing my 3.5 year old it was time to leave too. We are all still here. if you want some quick tips message me

My little boy is 2.5 years old he has major outbursts at playgroup. He won’t share, screams if someone come near him and throws objects around. Nursery have said he’s great and have no concerns about his behavior. The health visitor also seen him for for 2 year assessment and felt that he’s thriving despite the obstacles I face on a daily basis with him. So I always feel like I’m at a loss .. I’ve no idea what I’m doing wrong sometimes 😵‍💫 xxx

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