Vent

I love my little one to the core. But at times I feel that my life has been taken over completely by thoughts surrounding her and I am losing my individuality. I am tired. Balancing work and home when one is sleep deprived needs special kind of strength. I am trying my level best but feel that I am not doing justice to either. PS - my partner is really helpful but we don’t have a village to help us. So there is hardly ever a break.
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I completely understand, I have a 9 month old on my own me and her father are separated and live 10 hours away from eachother, so getting a break or time to even work also makes me feel like that! You got this mama no shame, maybe try having a little date night with your partner once baby goes to bed put on a movie light a candle maybe order some food whatever sounds good to you and relax!

What also helped me was taking her on walks or to the park where I could exercise which helped me feel more confident about myself and gets my baby and i out of the house

I understand this completely but I'm a sahm so I literally never do anything without my son attached to me. There was a couple times i went to dinner with my family and my husband kept my son and it helped me realize who I am and that I'm also my own person in addition to a mom

You are not alone. It is hard to raise a kid without family around who could take some load off of you. We are spending a lot of time outside, walking, doing things together (which is not always a success or pleasant) and I try to have outings without my baby on the weekends or early mornings while my partner takes care of the baby. Date nights also helps break the monotony (but expensive). Maybe just to see a different perspective on parenting you may want to check out the book called “Bringing up Bébé” by Pamela Druckerman. It is about french parenting which is more relaxed and supposedly creates chill, self-entertaining, independent babes:)

This isn't helpful to hear until you process it a minute... it's normal. Most moms go through this. Often it takes years to find yourself again. Which also means you have community in other moms going through it. It's hardest when it's your first and even harder when you're younger. Thank you for saying it; it needs to be talked about more so that others know that they're not alone in these feelings ❤️ it will naturally get better with a lot of time, be aware when you need to just get out. Try to make friends who can relate and will make time for short "escapes" and don't guilt yourself when you need a minute ❤️‍🩹

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