I haven't done anything with my little boy for Halloween and I feel dreadful

Hi everyone, my little boy is 1 year old, and I know it sounds really really silly but I feel dreadful that I haven't done anything with him for it. I just always want to make sure he's having the best time possible and not missing out. I said to my partner last week, "oh we should dress him up and do some Halloween activities or book on to a Halloween party because i havent got him anything planned yet" to which he replied "it doesn't really matter though does it?" Which hurt me because he knows how much effort I put into things. It's got to today, and I've seen loads of children his age going to messy plays, Halloween parties, dressing up etc and it's upset me. I work full time and today was my only day off with him, but by the time he'd woke up, had breakfast, played whilst I ate and got myself ready, most things that I could've booked were already booked up. I asked my partner if he could go and pick him up a costume on the way home and I'd think of something to do before he went to his nannas for the night (my partners mum and dad have him on Thursday nights as I start work very early fridays) and his response was "well Halloween is almost over now and he's going to my mums so theirs no point now, you should've planned something this morning". I just now feel like a 💩 mum, and I know he probably wouldn't even remember it if we did do something, but I wanted it to be a memory for us all and so I could put some photos in his album like we did last year 😞 It's really pathetic of me I know, and there's a lot going on at the moment at home so I think everything is getting to me more than it should, but I can't help but feel that mum guilt.
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That’s not pathetic of you , it’s pathetic of dad to just ignore your feelings, u guys don’t have trunk or treats or even a community mall u could take him too & maybe just take him later to grand parents house

Don't feel guilty we recently moved so we didn't plan anything but we plan on watching a family Halloween movie together and maybe eating some type of Halloween treat

Don't feel guilty - it really doesn't matter in the scheme of things. Or at all, tbh 🙈 If you want then just dress him up and take some photos next to a pumpkin. That's all most other people are doing!

No need to feel guilty, you have to pick and choose what you put your time energy and money into. I’m focussing 100% on Christmas. For Halloween I just got my 15 month old a top and leggings off vinted so he was dressed up for the Halloween party day at nursery but I didn’t get him a proper costume or take him trick or treating or do any activities with him because he has no idea what Halloween is! I’m saving it for next here when he will start to have an awareness

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