CAFCASS

Long storey short. I left my husband to protect our baby from his toxic drunken ways. He’s barely shown interest in our baby unless it’s for public or his social media. Now all of a sudden he’s sent me court papers for equal shared care. Obviously this fills me with absolute dread. I would’ve been better staying in the relationship than him get 50:50. He’s never even bathed our baby or had them overnight. I have a telephone interview with cafcass next week. What do I say? Tell them I think he’s a verbally abusive alcoholic? What should i expect. I’m so upset that he would further continue his abuse on me by using our innocent child.
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100% tell them everything off the bat! And get as many character references backing you up aswell and write down as many times you can remember him being like it too x

Different circumstances but I'm going through similar, I would say yes list your concerns but you very much want to do so in a safeguarding aspect so as to be seen to still have the best interests of the child at heart. Also, as hard as it will be don't shut down the idea of contact at all, perhaps instead saying you feel stepped contact would be better to build their relationship in the first instance with a view to increase over time. Bad mouthing the other parent as justified as it often is can be seen as parental alienation. X

It's important that you are not emotional or show any sign of resentment otherwise they will think you are biased and are acting upon revenge

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