Husband making me feel miserable

I really don’t know whether my feelings are normal or if I am a bad wife. Please be honest in your answers. My husband wasn’t very good in doing chores anyway. We had a baby soon after marriage so he just blamed our baby or work ( worked 5 days a week) saying he doesn’t have time. he hit his head few weeks ago on the cupboard. And now is walking around just sulking. We had to get our wardrobe removed today, so everything is everywhere. I believe I song majority of the work today, including lifting/manual labour as he also complains that he has a bad back. (Which I do, but if I complain too work won’t get done). So I thought he was tidying, as I was tidying the other rooms all by myself and when I went to the room, he was just sitting. So I said I need some help as well… And he replied saying do you know what I am going through? Meaning he still has headache/diziness. So am I bad for thinking what’s the point of our marriage if I am having to take care of everything, and also we pay halves for everything anyway, plus I pay for the kids stuff as I want to ‘spoil’ them. Also, mentally it’s just putting me down as he is always miserable, angry and just unhappy. Which affects me and makes me unhappy. I just don’t know if I am the bad wife. Am I supposed to be the one supporting through low every single day? While killing myself?
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nah he's a bad husband. you pushed a child out of you and are expected to do everything. this idiot hit his head WEEKS AGO and is acting like he lost all 4 of his limbs. he's acting like a toddler, actually scratch that, I've met toddlers that behave better than that 🤦🏻‍♀️

@Riley I’m just so exhausted. I’m trying everything. I tried to be more affectionate, thought it would change things, or how he acts towards me. As he mentioned before. But it’s just not working. He keeps googling non stop about how his head hurts. And how he has a concussion. But I know is off mood started while we were on holiday before this but it’s just getting worse.

maybe try getting him to a therapist. it kinda seems like he might be depressed. if it's not that then it might just be pure laziness.

This sounds sadly familiar! 😥 even if his head did hurt this sounds more like avoidance behaviour!?? He's acting all sick etc so that you have to pick up his slack? Not on at all!! 😠 and seeing as like you said everything money wise is all split 50/50 then he really needs to pull his socks up. You'd probably be better off on your own as at least you wouldn't have to parent a man child aswell xx

I’d say “you have a girlfriend” but even that is offensive to women because we get shit done Your husband is a sook and needs to grow up. This is not the behaviour of a man.

Sooo… he decided to help with putting the bed rail on to the other side. While he was on the bed I thought let me get my work clothes to the hallway so when I ‘sneak’ in the morning, I won’t wake up LO. So while I did this (literally was in the process of grabbing the clothes that was folded to put in the hallway) he hits his head on the rail. And starts complaining how it’s meant to be and death is calling him. And then of course blames me of why I’m dealing with clothes when he is putting the railing - that I should’ve helped. Well if he waited 30 seconds I would’ve helped anyway?! Or he should’ve just waited. So him starting to blame me just got to me suddenly and I said everything is my fault as usual. And now he got mad and went to the other room and I’m here crying. Just feel mentally exhausted

Your partner seems deeply disturbed

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