Advice please!

Is it wrong if I were to express to my partner that I want another child and if he isn’t willing to put the effort to end the relationship? By putting effort I mean eating healthy and going to the gym.. our first was a surprise but now him being diabetic it’s becoming an issue and messing with his T levels he was taking medication but progress wasn’t great since he wasn’t working out and that’s the main factor in order for results to progress but we’re all getting older and no offense to those that want an only child, I don’t want my kid to have a sibling as I always grew up alone even though I’m not an only child. I’m not sure how to go about this topic because it’s also a sensitive topic for him but it’s going on 4 years already…
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Have you guys been trying to have a baby also? Just because he may have low testosterone doesn't mean he can't have/make a baby. Just might take more effort. I would ask him if he wants another baby to start the conversation. It's going to be a hard one, emotions will be there but you won't know unless you ask. If you love him I wouldn't leave him. And to find someone new that you can trust to have a baby within in a short period of time doesn't really seem as good an idea. I come from a broken home & a blended family, & that is hard. My husband has 3 set of half siblings, & that was hard. He never felt close to any of them. Sharing one side doesn't always make them best friends. Although it sounds like you weren't close with any if your siblings either. So it could go that way no matter what. Not trying to be mean just putting it out there, as other examples and lived lives. But i would start by talking to him and just trying to stay calm & trying to feel out what he is feeling or thinking & go from there.

Yes we try but it’s also hard as he does have ED due to him being diabetic .. it’s only ever happened when he works out that he doesn’t have a hard time getting an erection which is why the urologists Dr said he needed to work out so it can help his Testosterone and his ED but since he doesn’t it’s hard and he does want another child he constantly says I want a baby girl or I hope our next one is a girl etc. you’re right I didn’t see it like that about having to trust someone else and half siblings not always getting along.. I do love him but I don’t know if I can live my life knowing the person im with isn’t trying to have another child, i don’t think I can be ok knowing that I want more kids knowing “ I’m not done “ I know others can’t have kids or have a lot of issues with fertility but it’s the fact that he isn’t even trying.. I’ve done the healthy meals to help him 80% end up in the trash

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