I need a village right now...please

I have f***ed up...the father of my children and I didn't work out and he has since been involved only when he wants to be. I was with a guy for 9 months afterward who I thought I'd he with for a long time (my kids are 6 and 4 now by the way) and i made the stupid mistake of calling him a step-dad. I'm a young mom, I'm 24. That justifies nothing. I've been with this other guy for a year today and now I'm not sure if this relationship is what I want forever or healthy enough to last. But the problem is he lives with us and my kids are literally attached to him and his family. I didn't influence the step-dad thing. But my 6 year old started calling him dad ON HIS OWN. Please don't come by me for coaching, I didn't. My 4 year old does not. It'll break their heart if we break up. I feel like a complete failure if I leave this relationship and enter a new one and give them yet again another man figure in their life. What have I done! 😔 I have so much anger toward myself. I'm ready to stay in this relationship just for them.
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It’s hard on the kids but they do get through it, a happy mom is more important than anything. Whatever is best for you is best for your children

I agree with samantha. Also, if you do break up with him have a set period where you dont date so you can figure out exactly what you want in a partner and just focus on you and kids

I'd suggest finding a counselor or therapist to discuss the feelings you have. Your kids will get through this as they are young but it may be beneficial for you to speak to someone.

It won’t break their hearts. Kids are resilient. Staying in a relationship would be more harmful. As long as you’re there to love them through it they’ll be fine

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