6-8 week check up

Has anyone declined this? I was thinking on cancelling my appointment after having nothing but hassle with doctors since LO was born. Was wondering if anyone else declined the check up, and what was said about it?
I have no concerns for her obviously, and still see health visitor regularly

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I don’t see why you would when they do the NIPE screening again, and may pick up on things you’re unaware of…
Appreciate having hassle with the doctors (I’ve had the same) but would never decline the checks to make sure my LO is okay x

I didn't think it was worth it for me. I've already sorted contravention, had a mummy mot with a physio and no mental health issues but they did a thorough check of baby again to make sure everything is OK which I wouldn't decline

I have to agree with Chloe.

I had a severely traumatic birth with my son, and several awful experiences with health care professionals post birth, that I am now terrified to go see anyone however when it comes to my child I wouldn’t turn down any checks, as there’s always that small possibility that something may have been missed, granted I’m with him everyday and whilst I have no concerns , that’s not to say something may actually need to be looked into, then again he could be completely fine but my motto is always better safe than sorry and I’d rather just tick it off for the peace of mind. To each their own though, your child your decision!

Is this the postpartum check up by the GP? I thought this was only meant for mom and not baby - good to know it's both :) mine is coming up in a couple of weeks and I'll go.

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This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

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